The dilemma with ‘us’ is our egoes that get into the way.
With ego involvement we can be excellent, without ego involvement we can be godlike geniuses.
Judgement does not further our cause.
Our we have tiny fraction of universes uniqueness inside us, and to live that true would be the purpose of life. Now, I would like to give advice i.e. to actualize that requires skillful action without an attachment to the results or trappings of identity.
Or perhaps that you could practice this or that meditation.
However, life is not that simple: each of our life is a puzzle, a game of a different kind to unlock our godlike nature. Therefore what works for one, may not work for another.
Buddha was careful with the words. Words or thoughts can guide or misguide us.
I realized, that my mission on is not to tell what I know, or communicate what I have learned. My mission is to wake up people to think for themselves. With this autonomy people can start solving their own puzzles of life and unleash the god within for themselves.
Action is over- and underappreciated word.
Overappreciated as in action without consideration, thought or end in mind.
Underappreciated as in thought without action. Action remains just a word, instead of verb in action.
There is the middle way: thinking, without thinking too much and doing, without doing too much.
My personal fault lies mostly in thinking too much and doing too little. Thus I see this quality in others as well emphasized. And it might be that I am too blind to my own actions that are mindless, so I cannot even name them yet. With a bit of thinking, I think there is indeed also this mindless action in play.
The more I’ve studied about habits and applied what I’ve learned to my life, I am amazed to discover these tiny pockets of time all around me. More efficient actions (=habits) create more time and space. What used require effort, do not any longer. Thus taking action becomes easier.
With habits also the cost of starting doing something (which I feel is immense). Have you tried to start a work out after a long work day? That’s only difficult if you do not already have the neural circuitry in your mind to fire of and start doing it. When you’ve the network however, it will automatically flare up and you will start the work out when you just find the right triggers for that.
The difference between habit and a separate action decision is huge. Habits have little to none starting cost, they trigger automatically. Decisions to do something have tremendous starting cost and when we are tired and hungry we are less likely going to make any good decisions.
Therefore life consists of making these tiny decisions right through the days, these will ensure sufficient energy when we need it the most.
We need tiny action everyday to start building momentum for the bigger decisions and challenges.
Words reflect our thinking. If we rephrase our words, we also reprogram our thinking.
- Limiting “best known result” – If we too much limit our thinking by setting the best possibility that ever has existed in our reality, we may not be able to think broadly and imaginatively. We hamper our own and the growth of others.
- Impossibilities “It can’t be done”, “I can’t afford it” – easy trap to fall into is to say something can’t be done. It has never been about it can be done. Much more productive is to ask how it can be done?
- Negatives – swear words and in general anything that evokes the negative feelings. It can also be the tone of voice, i.e. yelling or screaming.
- Distractions “I’ll do this later…” – effective way to decide is to ask yourself, when is this?
To practice these, notice the thoughts, write the thought down, strikethrough and replace it with smarter way to say it.
Words are magic to me, therefore I am rather careful with the words I choose. Words are reflection of our thoughts and if unskillful words appear, that must also mean that unskillful thoughts are present.
Words shape not only the individual, but the organizations as well. Therefore we should choose the words we use carefully. Words are loaded with meaning.
During October I’ve decided to practice mindfulness as Lao Tzu said:
“Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habit.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”
What I have learned through reading and writing is that they are both connected. If you think what you are going to say, you have already changed your destiny.
To apply this to your life, start writing down the sentences in the form of mantras or otherwise. Useful sentences like this become your thinking and doing. These words become your magic words, for almost any situation there can be learned a wiser thoughts.
Where we are is a one story. Where we are going to is another.
We can only go where we want from, where we are now. We have to accept our lot.
The our inner voice and story can prevent us doing what we could do though. That story can be either a curse or a blessing.
Either way it is, we have access to a powerful magic that can transform that inner story into a blessing if we so wish.
“Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
Words are magic. When words are connected to form sentences they become powerful spells, which then if they are repeated over time become part of us and start to work even unconsciously.
Mantras work this way as well. However, I cannot advise learning some meaningless mumbo jumbo but rather lines of wisdom that are more true than false.
I.e. I’ve been drilling the wise phrase by Theodore Roosevelt to myself over and over again: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” This thought connects with many others, however it reminds me on how to communicate with others (ethos, pathos, logos).
Meaningful phrases like these can counteract the usually cluttered thoughts with focus and clarity.
What we think where we can go, is that is constructed upon past. However, just like past has been constructed so can the future too with the truthful words. We can rewrite our destinies.
“Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.”― (presumably Gautama Buddha)
Words are vessel of change because they influence both the internal and external worlds. Words are always not even necessary. “Writing is easy. All you have to do is cross out the wrong words.” said Mark Twain. Right speech of noble eightfold path is the best guiding principle I can recommend.
Here are few practical examples:
- At Trainers’ House we apply this process by encouraging the use of uplifting and professional language, rather than the spoken style language or professional slang/jargon.
- In my personal life I would rather use nonviolent language than violent one.
- SSM health has kind of non-harmful or non-competitive language culture as well, as described in Pre-Suasion by Robert Ciadini (2016)
“Metaphor is a matador to change. If you want to change the world, change the metaphor” Joseph Campbell said. I would go in as far to say if you wanna change the world, change the word. Changing the word can mean two things:
- Changing the meaning i.e. defining the word again.
- Coming up with a new word and setting up the definition again.
Align your words with your values.
“Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.” ― Gautama Buddha
Literally I just got goose bumps as I recalled these words.
Language and words are the tool of a leader.
I’ve been observing in my life recently that we are all “sick of beliefs”. We do what we believe, and often times we have great limitations in what we do and we believe in.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” ― Henry Ford
Because of the limitations we’ve each moment, we need to hear kind and true words as Buddha suggests. There is never enough of kind and true words.
Words do not cost anything to give, but when followed with the kind and true principle they can mean a lot, they can change our world.