Remember to Be True To Yourself

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Yesterday’s decision making process put some interesting energy on the move. It’s the kind of energy where I remembered who I am and decided to live true to that.

We need to remember to be true to ourselves, and then we will find the energy to do the things that matter.

To be to oneself requires decision making based on self-understanding. Self-understanding requires listening and accepting that which is evident.

We get to be only ourselves in this life. Although what makes life fun is that we get to play many roles during our lifetimes. Still some roles fit us better than others and here the listening part comes crucial.

Listen, understand and say no to what isn’t you. Stay true to you.

Love yourself as you are. We need to love ourselves first, because not necessary there will be no-one else to do so either. We need to learn to be by ourselves first.

When we are able to with ourselves, it’s much easier to be with others and be of value to other.

Therefore remember to be true to yourself.

What Service Are You Drawn to Do?


There are actions which make everybody’s future better.

There are actions which make everybody’s futures worse.

Know these two, it’s easier to choose to put any extra energy to make the future better.

For longer time now, I’ve been drawn to writing. I’ve had to be rather internally motivated, because there has been very little extrinsic motivators. Or perhaps there has been, but I’ve haven’t been really interested in looking those up.

1,5 years ago as I was starting my writer journey, I got a piece of feedback & advice from authority figure: apparently my thinking and writing is clear, but the writers are not gonna get paid.

Well this didn’t bother me, as I hadn’t done it for the money in the first place. It still doesn’t bother me, because writing is just a way for me to crystallize thinking and share interesting and helpful ideas. External feedback is appreciated and the comments etc. are the best part of the writing.

Of course writing has a purpose, but first and foremost it’s a service: value to the audience first. If audience has a feeling that it’s valuable, of course then the feedback response is very much appreciated.

Therefore for me the writing is first and foremost a way to channel my reminder energy into a service that I feel is a most natural way for me to create value. I do it, because I can and I am able. Then I think how I could serve best today. With the serving focus I do write and as I am done, I publish my blog for example.

Anything that happens after that is just rather a nice addition and possible new ideas to elaborate what I’ve done days before 🙂

What are you inclined to do with your excess energy?

Synthesis from Science of Money and Some Other Books


So I just finished Science of Money by Brian Tracy and I was thinking to write summary. However, just writing a summary isn’t right, because there are so many interesting things from other sources as well which I thought to throw in the mix.

Science of Money gets a big recommendation from me, if you are interested about money. On the measure of how much Kindle highlights I’ve made, this was a great book with a lots of learning as I exceeded the 10% with over five percentage points. The fact that I cannot even highlight and remember everything, is a very good sign that if you are interested, get the book.

Book starts by verbalizing what I have been thinking and experiencing a in my professional life: “Money remains one of the most thought – provoking , emotional , and polarizing subjects in the world.”

Whenever we start to talk about money with people we do not know well, it is a topic that does easily cause strong emotions and polarizes. Conversations can end or light up quickly.

What is money? Money is medium of exchange, the medium to exchange value. Things themselves do not have any value, only when there is someone to pay.

As Yuval Noah Harari put in Sapiens “money is the most universal and most efficient system of mutual trust ever devised.” Money is medium of exchange, and it’s based on trust and belief that you can exchange it tomorrow too.

More important than money, is however the value. And because we all exchange our services for something, we better be always looking to create more value. Because of this, Brian Tracy puts it well that everybody works on straight commission. To me this was a breakthrough thought that instantly connected with another thought from Daniel Pink’s book to Sell is Human: “selling is moving people”, therefore we are all in sales.  I think this thought by Brian Tracy is really interestingly combined with this thought and creates even greater thought:  we are all in sales with straight commission.

When we begin to internalize this, we start to think more about the value we create in the hours, days and weeks. Brian puts it well that wealthy people work for six days a week. They also keep on investing on themselves to keep on learning new valuable skills.

Earning ability, the skills is important. Even more important is the habit of saving money from what you earn, after that you can scale up.

Parkinson’s Law and How to Use It

More importantly Brian goes through most relevant laws that govern money and earning. They all important, yet in here I would like to focus on Parkinson’s law that says expenses rise to meet the income. Or “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.”

On contemplating this, I’ve successfully understood why Elon Musk for example divides his time into five minute chunks to get more done. Even bigger chunks such as 30 min or 45 minute will work. Setting a time limit for a task will make sure that it will get done.

Identity and limiting beliefs

Brian goes to length talk about limiting beliefs, self-doubt in particular that as he shares in one story, is the tool of the devil as the metaphor.

As a medicine for self-doubt he recommends the inverse paranoia (believing that world is conspiring to make you succeed) that was practiced for example by W . Clement Stone who was worth 800 million $ at the time he died.

Many of us live with kind of (socially programmed) level of self-worth in money and social as well. This is mostly unconscious, we inherit from our childhood and youth environment and strive for it. If we are below the level of our programmed level of living standard, we are willing to work harder. If we are above, we will find ways to spend and get rid of the money.

Changing your identity about money happens as with any habit: slowly and surely. As with getting anywhere, visualizing the success and using the imagination to be actually already there is the first step to achievement. This is the way for example soccer hero’s are born: young boys watching their childhood heroes on the field. Or for any pop star as well, it all starts with a dream – a visualization and then a long journey with many tiny steps towards that dream.

Money is not the end goal, as said, money is just a metric on how much value you are creating. However, be patient, learn, learn and learn. You will be surprised: this is a more probably road than winning a lottery.

“The most important principle of personal or business success is simply this; you become what you think about most of the time.” – Brian Tracy

Since all money just measures how much value is being created, the value creation is critical. All value is created from nothing. This makes life a wonderful adventure, because it means we there is no limit to the value we can create if we are imaginative.

If your work is profitable then it’s worth of your time and effort, a nature’s way of guiding us.


Work and Humility

“When you go to work, work. Put your head down and work.” – Brian Tracy

Brian gives about working and understanding that working is exchanging value and then value should be maximized. With the acknowledgement that we are all humans, I like this kind of thinking. When we work, the focus should be working and creating value for the customers. To create value for customers we need to be finding new ways to serve these people in customer organizations.

Then I might add a different point of view as well, that our focus as human beings is rather limited. There are no such things as 12 hour productive streaks. We need to stay focused and productive during our day, however in between there should be smart breaks, a bit of exercise, and why not some laughter as well.

Overall I really like the idea of recognizing when you should be focusing and working and when you should be having fun is a big difference and I like the humility here as an approach.

Cause and Effect

 “All wealth, all happiness, all prosperity, all success are the direct and indirect effects or results of specific causes or actions” – Brian Tracy

To conclude so much content, I would say that value creation, through work and imagination are the basis. One important thing is what is called secondary consequences. This thought really hit me, that I actually see think about this stuff! Most people think only about what happens next, primary consequence if you do this or that. However, there are also the secondary consequences which will happen eventually from other perspectives.

Whatever you want to achieve in life you can either achieve it by chance or doing something differently. Study the cause and effect, and think of the secondary consequences too.

We Get What We Are Able to Give Others


Life is not so much about ourselves, but what we can do for others. Then in turn if there are good people around you, your needs will be met as well.  We get what we are able to teach others. By teaching we have internalized the thoughts and transferred into something valuable for others.

When we first help as many people to get what they most need in life, then eventually in time we will get what we need. All of us are in service profession, from different skill sets we need to look how we best can benefit the lives of others.

Giving happens through selfless service with no expectations of return. With no expectations of return we can focus truly to serve, without getting distracted by rewards. Working this way allows us to truly prioritize the human and the needs.


We Get Small Part of What We Give


We ought to live virtuous life. The more good we do and more value we add the more we receive. Yet the good we receive is always but a fraction of all good value we create.

When we combine the living virtuous life with selfless service we do in fact good without any expectance of return and through that we get unexpected benefits of seeing many good things happen when they need to.

We should look to do more good, to increase the value.

Difficult here is to contemplate on the right values, what is good? I.e. your own beliefs and values might collide with someone else’s. You mustn’t negotiate about anything worthwhile.

Instead we should work from what we believe and then create and give away value from there.

With less attachment we are able to, the more we feel like having. The more we give, the more generous and having we feel.

When we give, the motive isn’t merely to and expect return, but rather to do good without expectation. Doing good things to others makes us feel generous, and world will find a reprocicate.

Service and Sales


To sell is human definition by Daniel Pink, is that selling is moving people and therefore we are all in this profession. Brian Tracy in Science of Money agrees and add that we are all sales people with straight commission.

We all are trading our time for something. We should look to the value of our input, because in reality we only get a really small slice of all the value we manage to add. We should start looking to add more value first?

Actually we can stop looking to gain more altogether, it’s not a good place to focus on.

Sales consists of three things: service, marketing and leading.

  • For service you can take almost any prophet for example, they prioritized serving people.
  • Marketing is marketing the successes that come from the service.
  • Leading is about leading the decision making process.

At simplest forms sales is service, beforehand without any expectation of return and with your own risk. This creates the connection which you can turn into a commercial cooperation if you so desire to do.

Gratefulness for the Present


As I happened to finish the Obstacle is the Way and listen the discussion / “interview” at the end of audiobook with Ryan and Tim Ferris, Ryan was saying that Marcus Aurelius wrote the meditations to himself.

I might’ve borrowed that book over ten years ago from library. Too bad, that often at that time I rarely read any books, so even that I did not have the focus to read. In any case, this is inspirational thought for me, because most of my life I’ve written just for me. Later on with this blog, I’ve tried to serve some specific people as well as myself, however I guess in the end the final meditations that I do come up with these are primarily for myself.

If they add value to others, that’s great! That’s more than expected.

My recent breakthrough thought has been the gratefulness of the present moment.

This thought appears as feelings such as: I love my work, I love my colleagues, I’ve strong sense of purpose, my life has meaning, etc.

There are moments where these feelings and thoughts are tested through the days and weeks, however I feel like my general mood has been really upbeat and I like that.

It’s the people in my life who make this possible. Mostly the community at work which is the foundation for most of my wellbeing. Even though I probably would be alright without that and I know I would be, I wouldn’t have the sense of thriving so strong as I’ve now.

Present is all we have, so learning to be grateful for what we

3H of Learning

Often in learning there is a bit question about what to do and in what order. Well at first I had a little interest for this topic. However, one particular model about this topic that I did not really care about I’ve been using past two years: Hands -> Heart -> Head way.


Hands stand for the practical experience.

Heart means forming the connection and relation to the task.

Head means the intellectual side, of starting to actually understand what si going on.

The more I’ve got experience by doing, the more I’ve understood the importance of especially the hands and heart things. Hopefully in the future the head will also click! Just kidding.

Doing first is necessary to gain experience and build the bond with the task. Then when you’ve some context in which to apply the knowledge that becomes useful. You can start with surprisingly little knowledge to do work that is valuable.

Moreover, when you emphasize doing, bonding and learning in this order, you will find some place to attach the actual knowledge you learn. This makes learning much stickier and that is a big thing when it goes to learning.

What is truly valuable?  


I got a really cool “workbook” –sort of thing from work. Our Trainers’ House Growth Academy training program got an upgrade. I am really excited about this:


It’s not about an any easy topic, “elämän tarkoitus” translates as the meaning of life. As I was browsing this workbook thing on the way home, I realized another thing: our own thoughts are some of the most valuable, although at first I felt slight resistance to start filling the sentences, I realized what is preventing me from making something even greater sentence than the well honed ones I’ve heard from Jari Sarasvuo for example?

In fact when all the young people in the Growth Academy will fill in these, the chances are that there some more fitting words there than the so called originals…

What is truly valuable is what we give out of ourselves.

Guiding Questions


Adding to the yesterday’s post, today I realized there are a few questions I am using to lead myself through the days:

  1. How does this add value to my life?
  2. What is the most important thing I can be doing right now?
  3. How can I do this?

First question I’ve been using around a week now, second one around two months and the third one for about nine months. I realized that together these are forming kind of guiding habit to my thinking which helps me to identify what does add value, what is most important and how I can achieve that.

“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” – Voltaire

Life is about finding the right questions, then pursuing to answer those questions.