11 Questions to Reduce Hurry and Worry

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When you start to teach people about something, it gives you yourself more pressure to be example as well. This is mostly positive thing, because then you start deepen your relationship with the things you are teaching. Often this deepening means that you are thinking what you are teaching learning at the same time from different perspectives.

What I learned this morning about feeling of hurry is this: hurry is just lack of preparation.

This means, if we feel hurry, we have failed to anticipate the stuff we are stressing about presently.

What helps here is to accept the present circumstances and prioritize and think what is truly important, and how important. It’s through prioritization only way that we can live through our commitments and learn to make commitments that are most relevant to us.

Uncertainty makes life difficult. Or life is suffering like the Buddha came to understand.

The ability to accept these and to have a set of thinking skills in the present help to handle almost anything that happens and still live a worthwhile life.

Do not be affected by hurry.

Here are some helpful questions to cope:

  1. Do I have any problems right now?
  2. What is the most important priority right now?
  3. Am I doing my best?
  4. Is there something I or we can do?
  5. What would be the first step forward?
  6. What’s the worst thing that can happen?
  7. What is positive about this situation?
  8. Is the worst thing that can happen?
  9. Is this the end of the world?
  10. What is the upside?
  11. How to benefit from this situation?

Have a great evening!

Janne

Multiplying Effect

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Not all work is equal. I.e. you could do spend the time doing the same thing. Or you could spend few hours to teach someone else to do the work and then continue teaching the next one.

Soon we have a multiplying effect.

What if you then would teach others to teach to teach? That effect would again be manifold to the previous one and many hundred times more effective than the first approach.

I noticed that it does take courage and win-win-win thinking to actually do what is right. Yesterday I had to make a stand by saying no and then understanding and teaching.

Gandhi taught millions or even billions of people to operate differently in new way, which was based on values, truth and courage.

Where are the multiplying chances in your life?

Three Reflections About: Shame, Learning and Leadership

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Today I’ve had wonderful time reflecting on my painful experiences and trying to learn from them. Having gone this process I am sure that many of these lessons could be beneficial insights to anyone and therefore I decided to summarize it all in a one blog post.

 

Shame is the central human experience and a tool to deal with it

Upon waking up and pondering, the last party night and past weeks I began to depress. A question came to me: what is it exactly that prevents me from living the life as fully as I would like to? After journaling it became clear to me that it is the experience of shame.

Shame is a very limiting emotion, actually a collection of emotions as I further studied and recalled. Feelings that can be connected to the shame are:  feeling of insufficiency, inability, weakness, helplessness, feeling different, feeling of failure, imperfection, feeling of rejected, feeling of being hurt etc.

I discovered many of these feelings in the social interactions. The story of shame is the story of my life quite simply. However, what I’ve found increasingly awesome is that I’ve been able to begun to process it, which is necessity to get ahead in life. Only that which we acknowledge we can begin to heal from. So, although I still might suffer, I already remembered that I’ve begun the process.

Seriously finding a good and working with a good therapist would be a shortcut in this. However, writing journal, friends and family can good ways and addition to process some of it as well.

For me it’s mostly journaling, reflection, friends and on these kinds of days its’ also studying. Always when I get into the mode of reflection I start to study and recall as well what is the root cause all about. Then I finally try to recall or learn some kind of tool to help to deal with it more productively. Today I found one really useful tool from my online coaching materials by Jari Sarasvuo: “In 20 years, who cares?”

That’s very powerful! It gives the proper time perspective to all things in the present. Time is on constant flow.

 

Life is so limited, so what you going to do about it?

In life we can achieve only so much. Today I was also learning about history a bit, because of earlier discussions with friends and then I happened to stumble upon documentary about Silk road. In particular I was interested about the fate of Persepolis, which was ruled by the Darius I. It was interesting, that Darius had subdued all his enemies and therefore the city was left unfortified. This was for a while of course a great idea, until there came the Alexander the Great and pillaged the city.

Darius was Great. Persian Achaemenid Empire was great. Alexander was Great. Later on world has seen even greater empires. However, I think there is a one particular quality that strikes in all the greatness and it is the leadership ability to get things done.

There are different kinds of greatness, because in each civilization there is someone who really gets things done and manages to organize the common successes.

Alexander was a man of ambition. Did you know he left a will? The will goes on like this according to Wikipedia and its’ sources:

  • Construction of a monumental tomb for his father Philip, “to match the greatest of the pyramids of Egypt”
  • Erection of great temples in Delos, Delphi, Dodona, Dium, Amphipolis, and a monumental temple to Athena at Troy
  • Conquest of Arabia and the entire Mediterranean Basin
  • Circumnavigation of Africa
  • Development of cities and the “transplant of populations from Asia to Europe and in the opposite direction from Europe to Asia, in order to bring the largest continent to common unity and to friendship by means of intermarriage and family ties.”

Alexander was a military commander, and my ideals would lie in nonviolence, however I still gotta admire most of this list and the level of the ambition. I believe he had the ability to organize these successes, only if he had the time.

That’s why I am saying time is of the essence in life. Most great people get done great things, however they would benefit from the ability of more leaders.

So few people are actually born leaders, they taught. And there are few people who are able to teach leaders. I’ve recognized this path as something that I would like to do, to teach about leadership.

 

Feel the Burning Desire of Leadership? Here Are Some Ideas to Get Started

Jari taught me about four levels of learning:

First level is to learn.

Second is to learn to learn.

Third is learn to teach.

Fourth level is learning to teach about teaching.

 

I really like this kind of thinking and thus it is rather guiding thought in what I do. However, what is central here is the learning skills as well as the teaching skills. Where and how does one exactly acquire all this? Short answer is by constant practice.

“Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.” ―  Albert Einstein

“Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.” ― Isaac Asimov

By constant practice I mean there is no way around it: we have to do it by ourselves. We do not have to do it all the time by ourselves: we can involve others, however there is just no way that we can skip the part of learning by ourselves.

Self-education is called autodictatism.

When graduated from university of applied sciences with my bachelor’s degree in business, I knew I was just getting started with learning. I had started my thesis by reading a single book about organizational culture, ended up going through some hundred books and I still wasn’t satisfied. I am still on the quest to learn more and to describe exactly what it is that I want to teach.

We may have unlimited information available through search engines, however what we need to be also aware of is train our minds for the task of recognizing quality information. This is what learning is all about. When learning is applied we get results.

When learning is applied so that it can be taught to many, we are talking about teaching as well as leadership and the results can be multiplied.

 


I started the story and the blog very personally by admitting that my shame still limits me. The key learning here is to get moving and a good question to get moving is, “in 20-years, who cares?”

Decades are good timespan to think anything meaningful. I decided to try some different beliefs about ten years ago and from that point to this point I am living in utopia. This was utopia back then, yet  it is just everyday life now. There is still a lot of work ahead of me, a lot of shame and all kinds of inner demons to be dealt with, however there are tools.

Main tool in here is learning, serving the needs of others first and then organizing common successes.

 

Janne

Sales is Education

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This morning I had big realization about sales: sales is indeed teaching! This thought has resonated me very well since the first time I read Brian Tracy’s The Psychology of Selling (2006). In my native language Finnish I did realize some even more suitable words which feels rather satisfying.

I feel like I am ready to learn more about sales, now that the basics are covered.

My background in sales has been unlikely. A few years back, I just couldn’t have seen in any way that I end up in sales. It is through some defining moments such as my studies in Haaga-Helia UAS where I had chance to study under passionate teacher who also helped me to redefine sales. After that I’ve read books such as Daniel Pink’s To Sell is Human (2013) which further have given me the definition broad enough operate in this present day world.

Now I really do think even further that sales is actually education. We are all in the training business. Automatization progresses fast: routine tasks can and should be automated in my opinion. Who wants to do those anyway?

We are more free every day to study and educate ourselves. And the basis of education is sales.

Sales is such a wonderful force that can create more good to us all. By this I mean the economic activity that does yield win-win-win results and growth for everyone.

Time, Space and Results

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Did you know that the most of the results occur in this time – space continuum? As a physical entity we are limited to being one place at a given time.

How well we utilize the limited time is the key to results. We can only travel so much space, so it’s better to focus utilizing time wisely.

It’s not only own time, but the time of others as well. People have tiny windows of time in their lives, where they’ve possibility to do the big decisions. If you are there then, you can be part of that.

As a salesperson, I’ve begun to understand how big impact little time can have. Client can change their mind and cut the time you had agreed upon to half, yet the time-pressure itself creates tremendous potential to do the same amount of teaching or reaching agreements in half the time. Sales is great.

Time can be leveraged through tools such as phone and calendar.  You can even replicate yourself through videos to sell and market yourself all the time. With these tools you can be present in more places in more times.

By phone you can cover vast distances instantaneously. However, most of the time you can only have one discussion at a one time.

Most of our problems have to do with a simple problem: we can only be in a one place at a one time. Therefore our presence is the most valuable real-estate there is. Presence is managed by calendar: learn to manage your calendar and learn how other peoples’ calendars are. You will have a lot more power to yourself when you learn about calendars.

You most important tasks should be in, because if they are not, when are you going to do it? In fact just by using calendar allows you to have more realistic sense on what can be done and in what time.

It’s like the one hour meeting that was suddenly cut to 30 minutes, can you make the sale? Can you do the job? We all have only 24 hours in our days, lets’ use them wisely.

Leadership, sales and teaching

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What is in common with these activities? They all overlap each other in the most elusive ways. These three things are inseparable.

Leadership…

…is all about sales, selling ideas, getting results selling the results other way…

…is most of the parts teaching, guiding and reminding.

Sales…

…is teaching and enlightening the potential customers about the products and services. Without teaching your most important customers wouldn’t even know you or your services exist.

…is leadership from the very start to finish and then again.

Teaching…

…is sales, you sell the contents and the promise of a better life.

…is above all leadership, guiding the knowledge thirsty to the pool of wisdom.

 

On 2014 I noticed that my definition off sales was really false. It still continues to be, however, through small realization I’ve also come to notice what a potential force sales can be.

I think the Og Mandino’s book Greatest Salesman in the World, might’ve as well been labelled, greatest teacher in the world. This is because as in sales, as in life all growth starts from within us.