Unleash the God Within


The dilemma with ‘us’ is our egoes that get into the way.

With ego involvement we can be excellent, without ego involvement we can be godlike geniuses.

Judgement does not further our cause.

Our we have tiny fraction of universes uniqueness inside us, and to live that true would be the purpose of life. Now, I would like to give advice i.e. to actualize that requires skillful action without an attachment to the results or trappings of identity.

Or perhaps that you could practice this or that meditation.

However, life is not that simple: each of our life is a puzzle, a game of a different kind to unlock our godlike nature. Therefore what works for one, may not work for another.

Buddha was careful with the words. Words or thoughts can guide or misguide us.

I realized, that my mission on is not to tell what I know, or communicate what I have learned. My mission is to wake up people to think for themselves. With this autonomy people can start solving their own puzzles of life and unleash the god within for themselves.

Become the Programmer of Your Life by Reflecting on Your Stress Responses


When we are born into this world and grow up, we cannot choose the environment much at all where we are brought up. From the environment where we grow up, we inherit, learn and copy models for responding to stress. Let’s call these learned models scripts from now on.

Script is essentially a sequence of thoughts, emotions and actions that happen automatically and effortlessly in mostly unconscious mind.

Stress should be defined as influence that alters an existent equilibrium. Therefore inherently stress is not good or bad, it’s merely a sign that something should be done and thus triggers thoughts and emotions in us.

So when we grow up, and a stressor enters our world we automatically take actions according to the learned scripts. If we get hungry, we may go to the fridge and grab whatever we would like to eat at the time.

Since life is complicated, these scripts that are drilled into unconscious mind save a lot of time and energy for us. Yet to live a happy and productive life, scripts we have inherited, learned and copied may not always be optimal. The reason is simply that we are the very first version of ourselves the moment we become aware of this. Before we are aware of this, we are a product, not a programmer.

When we become aware, we become the programmer of our lives. Conscious time and space for reflection is one way to be aware. I write journal every day and try to meditate as well. From these activities I write down all thoughts I can get.

Best of all habits is to have time during weekend for such reflection, because then we can contemplate more deeply on what actions we have taken and have they been optimal.

As an example today I had such a reflective day which I spent mostly in quiet long walk. It’s during this walk I happened to go upon sea where I rested a bit and start my mobile phone and entered upon the realm of social media where I saw an update by a friend.

My reaction then and there was rather negative since the emotions like  uncertainty, inadequacy and jealousy a rose. I caught myself a few minutes afterwards thinking, why would I choose an emotional response to that?

I had to accept that I had a script that lead to rather unskillful stress response. Now that I had become aware of such unskillful script and accepted its existence, I could do something about it. Since I knew, I could choose the way I respond to stressors, I began to think what would be mature way to respond to this? I quickly found more positive things such as happiness for others, belonging and acceptance.

Actually it is through this reflection that changed the whole lense I am looking now at the happiness of others that is shared often through social media. I have to admit my ignorance: it’s a bit scary that I haven’t noticed this earlier in myself.

During the walk, I also decided to start practicing and deepening my bond with the virtues even more. In 2013 I used the virtue list, an idea from Benjamin Franklin. Yet now in 2017 since I’ve put more thought into my values and virtues as well, I thought I need to start practicing these in the same way, one virtue each week. Humility is on that list too.

Remember as long as we live, we are never the final versions, we are always under development. Are you a code produced by the chance and the environment or are you the coder of your own life?

Magic Words


Words are magic to me, therefore I am rather careful with the words I choose. Words are reflection of our thoughts and if unskillful words appear, that must also mean that unskillful thoughts are present.

Words shape not only the individual, but the organizations as well. Therefore we should choose the words we use carefully. Words are loaded with meaning.

During October I’ve decided to practice mindfulness as Lao Tzu said:

“Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habit.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”

What I have learned through reading and writing is that they are both connected. If you think what you are going to say, you have already changed your destiny.

To apply this to your life, start writing down the sentences in the form of mantras or otherwise. Useful sentences like this become your thinking and doing. These words become your magic words, for almost any situation there can be learned a wiser thoughts.

We Have Only One True Enemy And We Cannot See It, Because It’s In Us


 Thoughts and emotions are the strongest noise when we are conscious. Being alone with these is terrifying.

I am not good enough. This place is better off without me.

These are just some of the examples that mind is capable of producing, without any evidence. Insecurities, fears, experiences combined and exaggerated can create such without any effort.

Who does even bother to listen to these?

We can seek the comfort of others. Noise gets blurred, however it never goes away unless we learn to deal with it. We can receive guidance, and mostly likely should.

When it comes to the mind, it’s a jungle, we have to become the Tarzan.

The strongest predator in the jungle is no other than our own fears and cruelties we inflict upon ourselves. We are alone with this task, even though we might receive invaluable advice, guidance, mentorship from others.

The task is not to tame the wild, but to learn to live with it.

As a personal anecdote, I’ve had the two day party streak this weekend on top of weeks long work. This is rather unusual for me, yet very much needed. Summer time in Finland is wonderful and it needs to be lived to fully. We should throw at life all our energies and then some more. This is what separates man from the beast, the joy of living. It’s not only joy of party, but joy of work as well.

This morning then I reflect my two party nights and I’ve few regrets so far. Biggest regret is the things that we have not done and as far as the actions are aligned with the values they are likely to feel right.

In any case, I’ve noticed that it’s not really natural or easy for me to approach these situations without any anxiety. My mind is self-sabotaging all the time. It takes serious conscious reprogramming with situation by situation to feel alright.

Mostly my mind is my enemy. Although I cannot tell about other people, however since they do not give any signal that could interpret, I’ve to believe that it’s mostly just my internal thinking that sabotages my efforts.

“You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

I dislike hostile words that have to do with violence such as the enemy. However, in this case the mind is the enemy, the hostile saboteur or the friendly and punctual caretaker, gardener of our souls. We have to carefully choose which one we want to work for us. The trick is that, at first the gardener is novice, completely unskilled. We need to teach the mind the habits of greatness unless those are instilled upon us by friendly influences.

Aligning the Mind


meditation-2214532_640.jpgThrough the busy days, a lot of thoughts, insights, fears, worries etc. tend to be buried in our minds. Thoughts that keep returning to our consciousness unless we acknowledge their existence.

During this year I haven’t been meditating regularly and I noticed that since I’ve fallen out of that habit I’ve become more prone to the stresses of life.

So I’ve now taken the time to get back into the habit of meditation in the morning and in the evening. Even starting with as little as five to ten minutes does wonders. Once the habit takes over, on times the sessions often take longer if necessary.

Past time eight years, I’ve found out that still the habit of regularly and consciously having the time and habit for the meditation is indeed the best. It’s easiest to stay aware, mindful about the thoughts and root out the unskillful thoughts when they are still their weakest. For this, to increase the mindfulness I guess it is skillful to align the mind through meditation in the morning and then in the evening to do a sort of quality check for the day.

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thought.” – Buddha

Learning from Stress



Much of the results we achieve each day are dependent on how we can handle stress and what our relation to stress is.

Personally I’ve come to think that the how very important. Even so important we could ask it several times in five why’s fashion how, how, how, how and how? How do we respond to stress tells so much about our beliefs, decisions, priorities and choices. How we react matters, even though under stress it might seem uncontrollable, however that tells us that we believe the stress is something bigger than us.

On the other hand there are people who respond to stress in quite different way, with focus and clarity to what they can control. Many of my colleagues are such people and it is indeed very pleasure to work with them.

Stress is merely a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension. Tension then is the act of stretching or straining.

When walking the middle way, we recognize that too much or too little of anything is likely to have negative cause to our life. To grow need to stretch, but also recover.

To know when we are having too much stress is to simple observe our stress reactions: when reactions start to become harmful, it is time to take some time to calm down, and take a deep breath.

In life, all situations affect each other and thus they form the totality of our stress load. I.e. relationships do affect work and vice versa. When traveling, under pressure and enough many things go wrong.

Recognizing how our own stress reactions and what do we do with it is helpful to know if there is anything we could perhaps to do more skillfully in the future? Also objectively observing the stress reactions from people close to us, will reveal valuable clues and insights how we can live in harmony in the future.