Rediscovering the Balance


I’ve felt a bit mentally off balance this week, which I guess is because of stretching more in social life than usually. This morning I began to ponder that another thing has been that I haven’t had as much mindful time as I would prefer to. Therefore I decided to dedicate some time in the morning for meditation.

My key realization is that although physical exercise is important and is often times prioritized, how many of us prioritize mental training? Both are equally important, and at best they are the same.

Personally I had forgotten this lesson and happily spent twenty minutes of my precious morning time to meditate and it was worth every second and more.

“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” -Zen proverb

This Zen Proverb is so true! Often when we are the most hurried we forget the most important thing.

In life there is no excess: there is no hurry, or too much or too little. Our perception is merely off and that’s why we should find the inner balance again through sitting still with our minds and letting go of the thoughts.

Exercise Advantage


We are created to move. The benefits of exercise transfer to all areas of life. I guess one of the most underappreciated form of advantage is the cognitive advantages: people who exercise more learn faster and remember better.

Above all it is not even that difficult: we just need to reduce the passive time and substitute it with standing up or walking for example.

The 10 000 steps a day is a worthy goal. Even if you cannot make it to the 10 000 try 7 000 at first, it’s gonna transform your life in the long run, not just your body, but your mind as well.

Over time, exercise energizes. Exercise let’s us to rewire our thoughts and emotions into a more positive state as well.

Health is based on movement, nutrition and sleep. If you have enough of all these, you are likely to live a healthy life. Then there are exceptions to both directions. Those who exercise gain the health advantage, those who do not throw the advantage away.

Reading more or more often?


There is tremendous value of repeat reading the things you’ve read past year or even few months.

Having read three to four books a month, I’ve started to put increasing amount of value of returning to the same book. On my kindle, I get the highlight notes, which is about 10% of the total book. Those I revisit rather frequently which is awesome and they serve as incredibly assistance in my writing as well.

While highlights are great, they are still only part of the book. We forget most of it like the forgetting curve shows.

When it comes to great books, they should be read more often (especially nonfiction).

As example, I read Road Less Travelled about a year ago. I thought it was a great book. Now that I read it for the second time, I noticed how little I had understood of it. Certainly I had taken key points from there and even applied much of the lessons there, but the second time only deepened my understanding, gave me totally new perspective and again several points to work on.

I feel like this is a book worth of studying several times, if not for a lifetime.

When it comes to books like this, it’s not the quantity of how many we’ve read, but how well we’ve internalized the message and the lessons there.

Conscious Growth


Definition of ‘conscious’ according to Google: late 16th century (in the sense ‘being aware of wrongdoing’).

Being aware of wrongdoing! To be aware of the wrongdoing would require some sense of the right. And for this there are some simple questions to ask yourself:

What is my purpose?

What is my mission?

What is my vision?

What are my values?


Pause, Don’t Panic

While the set of questions may be daunting, pause for a minute first.

Often we are living our lives without personal life statements such as these, yet many organizations have their purposes, missions and values which we are exposed to. Although we might be unconsciously gravitating towards what feels right, I think everyone owes it to themselves to be aware of their own values and drivers.

The ability to love others come only through our own growth. And growth can only begin if we know where are a standing, and then where we want to go. So this is essential groundwork to be done on the journey of growth.



My purpose is simply to grow, explore so that I may nurture the growth of others. As for my mission, it’s more about how good karma is my guide and I try to lead a good and virtuous life through example. These serve my vision which is to organize progressively challenging successes together, so that we could maybe one day work towards exciting goals such as interplanetary travel.

I admit that in an everyday situation I would probably be unlikely very well articulated about these. Yet I am recognizing the importance of knowing the purpose, mission, vision and values by heart. Often many organizations such as companies and churches have their values in many places so that people will remember theirs easily. Yet why is it so that we do not have our own values memorized?


We Are What We Remember We Are

Our understanding of the reality pretty much of what we remember, either through experiences or knowledge. It is the memory and identity that dictate what we think we can do.

Therefore we should remember our purpose, values, mission and vision by heart. If you are young, some of these might be still working versions, which is totally fine. It is the sign of a wise person to be able to have dialogue with the world and change their behavior upon learned experiences and wisdom.

Quick and permanent judgement does not simply work, because all life is in constant flux and fluid like water. It’s like saying the water in a running river is today same as yesterday. Well although its water, a lot of water has passed already! Understand the impermanence in life.


Paradox of Life

You have to prioritize the needs of other people and your own growth at the same time.

Again, pause and breathe! Two things can be true at the same time: think of circle overlapping each other or the atmosphere of the earth. Because in fact there is no clear point where space starts and the atmosphere ends it’s seamless!


Sustaining Growth

To sustain growth, we need energy.

Prioritizing the needs of others eventually drains ourselves. Yet there is no greater purpose in life to serve others and nurture their growth.

For this reason, we need to prioritize our own growth at the same time. We need to take our own energy. and growth. There are many forms of energy: mental, physical, spiritual and intellectual and you must attend to all these parts in your life.

Due to the seamless nature of life we ought to become the masters at prioritizing each moment according to what will serve our overall purpose the best.

I’ve attempted to describe the prioritizing with the following picture:

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And right away contradicting with my own model I dare to say it is possible to rest in motion if you are well prepared. Likewise it is possible to have rest that does not feel like rest at all if you have taken too much action.

What I find interesting, the more you shift between the action and preparation, the better of you actually are. As extreme example: Elon Musk has his days split into chunks of 5 minutes. This kind of schedule would be really fluid between burning energy and recovering it.

I am trying to have split my focused work to 45 minute spurts and then something else between.

When it comes to sustainable growth, we are all individuals with different drivers (values, purpose, mission…), so some are willing to sacrifice different aspects of their lives than others. However, be aware of your choice.

Path of the Conscious Growth

Conscious growth means acknowledging your responsibility over your own growth in order to benefit others. Conscious growth is essentially recognizing the potential in yourself and then starting the work to actualize some of that potential.

Next think: what is it you want next?

Based on the previous questions, you should know by know that the time and energy are limited. We still what we want and setting a goal towards that can be beneficial, at least you will be going to the right direction.

Life Swings Between Boredom and Suffering

Schopenhauer’s words about life that I often ponder about. Too much of either suffering or boredom makes us feel miserable so the key is balance. Balancing all days, weeks, months and years is impossible thought so what to do when these feelings again reappear?

I see there is only one constructive thing we can do: accept it, learn about it and improve in the long run. As swedes say ‘lite bättre’, a little bit better next time.

Remembering and applying the actions in future is as vital as the learning experience itself. 

Last of Freedoms


A thought that keeps coming to me more and more is that how happy I can choose to be. This thought comes from the realization that I’ve had that we can actually choose our emotional response. Victor Frankl wrote the Man’s Searching for a Meaning where he has been personally experimenting the limits of this sense of freedom which he calls last of our freedoms.

In cognitive behavioral theraphy there is as well the idea that often before emotion a thought occurs. When we can start to recognize the cycles of thoughts, emotions and action we can begin to see our life more objectively.

Last week I picked up this as a new mindfulness routine as well: I began to classify what kind of feelings the thoughts had behind them and this furthermore increased my inner awareness.

Thoughts and emotions which aren’t being noticed will only grow stronger, so it’s good to have the time to acknowledge them and try to understand what the emotions are telling us.

However, it’s also good to remember that we are not our thoughts, or we are not our emotions. Thanks to our consciousness we can choose to respond to these thoughts and emotions. We have the last call. Because of this choice, we can literally decide and that feels liberating.

Learning with Purpose


I am obsessed with learning and thus I’ve been trying to optimize my life in the way that allows me to learn quickly. Learning satisfies my curiosity and gives me sense of fulfillment. Learning in itself is rewarding and when it is aligned with the purpose, it does feel like I am closer to something.

Last week I recognized that even with all our understanding, with all the amazing things we have done as humanity… All we’ve learned is not that much. It is quite outstanding, that we’ve been to the moon six times and around the moon once. Yet, I’ve a feeling that we would be capable of much more.

What prevents us from co-operating and achieving these awesome things? It’s our short memory: we forget that we all are related if we look further enough.

Yesterday as I was chatting with my colleague this is what I realized: we are often reminded who we are closed to through our names. The way other people around us remind us, who we are close to let’s us remember the people who matter most. And the rest of course we remember.

Can you name all of your great grandparents? Unless you’ve been doing family research recently, it is very unlikely that you can name more than perhaps one great grandparent. This presents the problem that we have: we’ve forgotten the shared lineage. And we will keep forgetting it.

By default setting human mind tends to like the familiar, and dislike the unfamiliar. Conscious overrides do exist, or even the habits to override this can be practiced. Yet this the familiar is comfortable and unfamiliar is not, because it requires mental effort and using the brain to do that takes a lot of energy.

So we forget what we share. Because we forget what we share, we forget that we all have something in common. And because we forget that, we forget also that we can co-operate together. We can travel together.  We can laugh together. We can learn together and from each other.

Whatever we want to do in life, is not heavenly bestowed to us. It’s not like we already have some kind of knack how to do things naturally the way that brings the right results. Instead we need to learn.

Learning is ongoing process.

Often when we grow up, we do it naturally. When we grow up we may have fantasies that after school, or after university degree, or after work we don’t have to learn. While that might be possible for some, I doubt life would be much fun if it is so.

The question is what to learn next? What do you want to do next?

Work is a Vehicle to Our Dreams


I started my new year in unlikely ways in a party and when I wake up I realize I’ve slept through half of the day. To me this was once in a year occasion and therefore felt out of character since it has been a while. Because of this different kind of experience, I felt my clarity on my life for the upcoming year to sharpen: I am willing to sacrifice for my purpose and my purpose has meaning to me.

I have a plan and I am willing to work for that plan, I feel like the completely opposite of that feeling about six months ago, when I wrote the Ode to the Laziness. As I read glanced through the text yesterday, I had managed to capture essence of something great in that text: laziness is connected to the meaninglessness of the action.

In life, there is resistance to do what would benefit us. Resistance does exist and sometimes is exceedingly strong, so that we even fail to see the relevance of taking action.

Failing to see the relevance of actions is the main cause of meaninglessness. We all yearn for meaning, accomplishing or taking steps towards that meaning create emotions of fulfillment, joy and fun.

There is nothing wrong with the feeling of laziness. It is merely telling us that, we lack understanding of where we are, where we want to go and knowledge of are we truly progressing that direction?

While answering these questions might feel very frustrating, doing fun things to distract ourselves from these questions is not really an answer either. Now with the power of retrospective wisdom I know that there are two types of fun: fun that we do to distract ourselves from the meaningful and the fun and joy that comes from progressing towards the meaning.

I prefer the second one to the first one any day. Therefore, I am willing to sacrifice the first one all the times for the second one.

Any dream can be turned into a goal, and for any goal there is something we can do today. Doing that something for the goal, could be then called work.

Clarify your dream. Dare to dream. Break it down into goals and break those goals into actions. Take up upon those actions and work on them each day with a smile in your face, because you are in fact progressing towards your dreams.

What is holding you back? Most commonly people complain about lack of resources.

In the book, Richest Man in the Babylon, George Clason suggests a simple cure for the lean purse: make habit of it to keep 10 % of your monthly earnings to yourself. Keep the 10% and make it work for you. This simple thought itself, is enough to create resources for you.

This alone will motivate you eventually to work harder, because hard work creates surplus for everyone.

What do you deem worthwhile in life? I am sure that many of the things you do today, can help you progress towards that worthwhile goal.

Sometimes we forget that our actions matter in our own journeys to the worthwhile goals and dreams. Remembering is important. Remember why, make it crystal clear. Write it down, somewhere where you inevitably see it each morning.

We need to remember the most important things. Only way to remember is to remind ourselves.

Remember: work is the vehicle to our dreams.

Focus on Your Goal and What Are You Going to Do About It


Our ability to direct focus determines so much what we can achieve.

This morning I woke up without alarm after five a.m. and at first I was about to succumb into the sand pit of news and everything. Then I realize that this is not exactly a good way to start the morning.

I’ve taken measures to limit reading the news and the time spent on social media, but the limit of ten minutes is always reset in the morning. When I realized this habit, I immediately closed of the pages and asked myself what I am doing? I clearly needed to remind myself of what today is about.

Dreams are nice, goals are better. After remembering what the goal is, know what are you gonna do for that goal today.

Leadership is reminding. Since we are our own leaders, we need to remind ourselves about what we are able to do. With this, I think I need to heavily modify my home office to aid me in this task of remembering. Writing goals down is effective, putting that goal to somewhere visible is even more effective.

Seeing the tiny, everyday progress towards the goal is beneficial, and psychologically important, so visualizing is great idea.

It’s easier to drop the distractions once you know your big goal and what you have to do for it today.

Remembering is the difficult part of attaining goals



Today I woke up at my moms’ place, as we had a bit of family gathering there on Sunday and I wanted to take the chance to stay late so I stayed over. As I today woke up, a bit earlier and headed to work. So I was first person at the office by arriving at 7:15. Today I was also last person to leave the office around 7:30. This is very rare, but today it was explained by the odd day in between weekend and Finnish independence day the 6th of December, which is day off.

There are reasons for me to go early and leave late, and it has to do with the upcoming trip. I had the pleasure of organizing my work so that my mind can actually take some time off from work as well.

Today I have a lot of stuff on my agenda, not only to get all this work done, but also after that to go pickup my girlfriend of from airport

At first I was thinking to go there straight off from work. However, I am glad I didn’t because in between executing my work and picking up my girlfriend, both which are huge priorities, I had also forgotten some of my own priorities: like blogging and reading.

Therefore, I am really glad I took some time off, recharged and now I am typing this. It’s easy to find 30 minutes each day to write and another 30 minutes of day to read, It’s just the matter of remembering and making it happen.

Even smaller chunks may work, especially for things like reading even 15 minute intervals are great breaks.

When normal routines are broken down our priorities get tested. How bad you really want achieve your goals?

Most important thing Is remembering what matters and making time for it each day.

After that you may think what are you willing to sacrifice to achieve it all? There is always a price to pay, some may not be worth it while others are totally worth it!