11 Questions to Reduce Hurry and Worry

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When you start to teach people about something, it gives you yourself more pressure to be example as well. This is mostly positive thing, because then you start deepen your relationship with the things you are teaching. Often this deepening means that you are thinking what you are teaching learning at the same time from different perspectives.

What I learned this morning about feeling of hurry is this: hurry is just lack of preparation.

This means, if we feel hurry, we have failed to anticipate the stuff we are stressing about presently.

What helps here is to accept the present circumstances and prioritize and think what is truly important, and how important. It’s through prioritization only way that we can live through our commitments and learn to make commitments that are most relevant to us.

Uncertainty makes life difficult. Or life is suffering like the Buddha came to understand.

The ability to accept these and to have a set of thinking skills in the present help to handle almost anything that happens and still live a worthwhile life.

Do not be affected by hurry.

Here are some helpful questions to cope:

  1. Do I have any problems right now?
  2. What is the most important priority right now?
  3. Am I doing my best?
  4. Is there something I or we can do?
  5. What would be the first step forward?
  6. What’s the worst thing that can happen?
  7. What is positive about this situation?
  8. Is the worst thing that can happen?
  9. Is this the end of the world?
  10. What is the upside?
  11. How to benefit from this situation?

Have a great evening!

Janne

Live Your Purpose and Plan

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Do you have a dream? Have you made the dream into a goal by setting some due dates?

My purpose is good karma, which means trying to live everyday virtuously according to my values so that the after the day I would’ve done more good than harm. This is a bit difficult to assess to be honest, because even with best intentions one can end up causing harm. Knowing this, I try my best to do good and mostly that starts with myself.

My purpose shows in daily actions as following the vegetarian diet, exercising, writing journal, reading books and meditating. I try to apply it to everything I do and work, this is described as “karma yoga” or yoga of action as described in Bhagavad Gita.

After the important daily actions which I mentioned, I still usually have quite a bit of energy left: this goes to work of serving other people. Usually most of my energy goes to my professional work. After my professional work has been done and the daily actions are done, I do not have much energy left for the day. Usually with the reminder depending on the day I spend with friends, family and finally try to write and publish a blog post. Then there is also perhaps a bit time during the week or perhaps weekend for reflecting and planning for the future and reflecting of the past. Especially life planning and financial planning are perhaps weekly themes that I check, if everything is going as I feel they should.

Even though I feel like I am living a purpose, I feel like I must still have some sort of action plan and vision for life. I’ve vision about better future, where we could succeed together in bigger and more audacious projects such as discovering the potential of the human mind, space travel and exploration.

This requires learning and that’s why I am big advocate of learning: I wish everyone would have the opportunities get the basic schooling to be able to read and write. Then get the access to knowledge through teachers, mentors, and coaches. Internet is important place to learn and share the learning,

Civilization, becoming civilized I think is the answer and that happens through learning. With learning there are few necessary skills such as critical thinking and learning and the abilities to learn and required. Then with reading and language skills, access to knowledge such as teachers, internet and libraries we are finally unlocking the vast potential of human curiosity. I value highly projects such as Wikipedia, Youtube and Khan Academy.

Planning and having this positive desire, does not need to mean to having to attach to this plan or the result. Life is prioritization all the time, it’s not skillful to get attached.

Karma yoga

Your work is your responsibility,
not its result.
Never let the fruits of your actions
be your motive.
Nor give in to inaction.

Set firmly in yourself, do your work,
not attached to anything.
Remain evenminded in success,
and in failure.
Evenmindedness is true yoga.

—Bhagavad Gita, 2.47-49

Yet having a plan, means that you’ve given a thought for the future and when the future meets present, you’ve ore options. At best you’ve a different plans plan a, plan b and so worth and then you can choose the closest options or the hybrid of these plans and continue with that. Planning is proactivity and probabilities. Planning means recognizing risks and working to minimize those risks.

Life is rather short and no one exactly knows how much time we have left. Thus living a mindful, present and happy life with a sense of purpose is a sound piece of advice. Yet what could be more inspiring reason to get up than inspiring vision, that today’s actions do good today, but perhaps tomorrow as well?

Because of the shortness of the life, we have to live the purpose every day. Where we spend most of our time we should stay focused there. Yet we should be aware of the future potentials, plan for different skenarios and be awake to take advantage of them. If we could be even greater service through planning, shouldn’t we take advantage of that?

That’s exactly what I had in my mind today as I broke down my previous cash flow calculations into a more actionable goals. About a year ago as a part of the real estate investment coaching I calculated the following cash flow requirements from assets per month to feel secure, wealthy and rich.

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It’s still holds true I feel. However, as I had these stages thought out, I didn’t have much plan to how to achieve them. I had a bunch of separate ideas hanging around, yet crystal clear action plan or scenarios thought out.

Three scenarios I did manage to write for the near future, that was rather rewarding. Then in regards to this stages, I also considered the potential vehicles. Mostly I’ve come to the conclusion that real estate investing is the way to go, the vehicle of the choice so to speak. What now made these stages now really feel achievable was that I was about to calculate with my conservative numbers how many apartments I would have to own in order to achieve these goals. First earned euro from real estate asset is of course the first step, however now I also know that the first milestone is 13 apartments. This feels very energizing and great to know that it is doable number, although there is a bit of how still remaining: planning helps us to visualize the potential outcomes.

Then it is just up to us to live the life mindfully in the present and enjoy whatever life brings without an attachment!

Unique, Not Apart

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 We are individuals who are who are part of greater self. We seek naturally to be a part of something greater than us. People are hypersensitive pack animals, because this is the way we have survived. Prioritizing first our own safety comes through belonging to group.

Our first need is safety. Only after safety has been satisfied we begin to look for some sort of variance of excitement. On the next level there is uniqueness and belonging. And finally there is fulfillment and altruism.

Because we are pack creatures pretty much all our needs are fulfilled through other people. Sure we can be physically safe alone, but we cannot be psychologically and emotionally completely safe and sane alone.

Once we feel safe within the group, our needs to show our individual and unique side begins to grow. In this way the individual flourishes within the group. We all have need to express our uniqueness and to be ourselves to a some degree.

With the individual now in mind it is easy to think that we are just individual. In reality we are just self that is part of greater self where we all are connected.

Having both interconnectedness of everything in mind, while at the same time seeing each other as unique individuals we are is a skill to practice 😉

Two Leverages in Our Life

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Life is rather simple: what we do in present become the past tomorrow. These actions then stack up and build the both mental and physical palaces we habit tomorrow.

First leverage: TIME

We are in control of our present moment and in the present we can control how the future flows into the present. Calendar is one of the oldest ways to manage time. Important addition to the calendar is the personal priorities and personal mission.

Time is the most important and valuable leverage we have over our life. We’ve the choice how to use that time.

Next one week is 168 hours. We can spend an hour in a thing we love, what the world needs, what we are good at, or what we are paid for. There are several options to do or not to do in one hour. If we choose the path of action the Ikigai is a good way to think about time the time as well:

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(Image 1, Ikigai)

Let’s say we have one hour and we spend one in each four circles alone. That amounts to four hours of our life. Is it wise way to use our own time that’s for us to determine.

However, what I’ve learned recently it is in fact the ability to make as many circles overlap as possible that starts to make the life feel meaningful.

For example my next 168 hours looks like I am going to spend 89 % of the time sleeping, working, commuting and writing. Most of that time overlaps with my passion, love and vocation. If I am not good at what I do, at least I am getting better. I am quite satisfied with this time spend. Almost all the rest of the time goes to the important relationships I’ve.

How does your next 168 hours look like and do you like what you see? What purpose your upcoming week does serve?

Second leverage: CAPABILITY

Second leverage is our capability for action in the present moment. We can invest in our energy, knowledge, strength and ability in the future, by practice and exercise in the present.

As an asset our bodies are rather irreplaceable and our minds are supercomputer class. Except unlike supercomputers, our minds are carried with us everywhere, highly mobile and adaptable to our interests. On top of this our minds can leverage those actual supercomputers if we so wish to do. And through the means of language we are also connected to other humans, which is in a sense a network of supercomputers. In fact the relationship between two people can become so much more than just two separate supercomputers. Napoleon Hill described that the two people or more forms also a third mind, so called mastermind.

 

Especially because of the second point, I am always interested in discussing and talking, and connecting with new people. Send me a message (jhapiiroinen[ät]gmail.com) or leave a comment below. We can chat, or make a Google hangout. 

Energy First

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I’ve been struggling with my life past few days and as a consequence I haven’t really had a spark to do anything. Then I decided to listen to myself and prioritize the one thing: rest to get the energy back up.

That was two days ago and today surprisingly I hit an energy spike after work to do extra chores around the house which is in the normal routines would be very rare.

I thought this is pretty cool: to have energy to do this kind of things. Although that’s just a spike, I asked myself could this be possible more often? Probably I wouldn’t still have energy to do it every day but on some days yeah sure it is. All I need to do is prioritize the rest first, then put the energy to something that creates more energy like exercise, healthy diet, cleaning and that kind of things.

Prioritizing the life like that, for the rest is the challenge. I’ve quite often prioritized the needs of others above my own. I’ve stretched for others, yet I haven’t kept my own priorities straight.

When the energy comes first, there is ability to do the work that is required in a focused manner. Everything else is just unimportant distraction. I am describing the pareto principle here… Which I need to start applying more and more.

What work brings most of your results?

Plan the Failure to Act the Success

 

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Plan is defined in dictionary.com as a scheme or method of acting, doing, proceeding, making, etc., developed in advance.

I kind of like this definition, it’s not awesome, however mentions the important aspects of preparation in advance for something.

The only difficult thing in life is determine what is actually important, what matters.

If you would know yourself well enough to answer that question then the only remaining thing would be to think how not to fail or in other words how to succeed at that. I like the not failing here more,  not because I would encourage to avoid failure (quite opposite), however when we are preparing not to fail we can really start to kick up our planning up a notch.

When we do not want to fail, we start to think what are the most critical parts and how I am going to handle it.

The best people and organizations do this all the time, until to the point that this becomes habit and the critical situations then become automatic.

I am in love with this idea.

Succeeding is simple, have a plan and work that plan.

What Matters and In What Order?

 

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After a fruitful work week, which I started doubtful and ended up grateful. Now I’ve been asking myself is this just outside circumstances, or have I been doing something differently?

I did approach this week with system and preparation. System lasted for some degree, while the preparation was insufficient: it completely failed to guestimate the degree of randomness.

With a lot of random and uncertain events, being fluid with the plans is an asset. Life can be like Jazz, as long as there is some kind of idea: what matters then the rest can be improvised.

If there are several priorities it is good to put them in order, because we can be only in one place at a given time, so we must learn to choose as well in order to feel fulfilled.

Prioritize the Important and Proactive Action

 

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Highly productive focus to the important and before it is necessary. Ideally we do the important things before they become urgent. If it’s urgent, then we become more reactive and then the sense of urgency takes over. Therefore focus to sharpen the saw, focus most of your attention and energy to the important and proactive action each day.

Easy to say, right?

Neil Pasricha introduces to a great model in The Happiness Equation book to furthermore help with the time management. It goes like this: automate, regulate, effectuate and debate.

Automate, means to make the decisions once and then just either do them without much further consideration. All our routines are automated already as an example, so we can expand this concept to pretty much everything that can be automated and is of low importance.

Effectuate means just do it. Tasks that take a little time and have to be done, they are better to be done.

Regulate means to set aside time and do batch of work at a time regularly, rather than checking email multiple times each day you can set aside certain time when you check and clear your inbox and then that’s it for the day.

Debate is discussion with the important people in your life about the important decisions. Its’ about taking the time and other people’s input in consideration.

Getting back to the original topic of focusing that which is important and not urgent. Such simple concept takes a long time to take root, yet it was just today as I realized that for example meditation would fit that box. It’s so important and proactive. Same goes for the famous eat, move and sleep categories, they are crucial.

To which box most of your habits in life falls?

13 Tips on How to Make More Out of Your Time

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We all have the same amount of the time in the day, hour and minute.  Our life is fluid, ever changing moment of present moments. Our priorities do change.

How many of the priority hurdles we can clear? Well as many as we can do at once. And no I am not talking about multitasking, I am all in monotasking.

By clearing multiple priorities I mean finding actions that can serve multiple priorities at once and building in more habits that serve all those priorities though a day. The more of our priorities we can serve during the day, the happier we are, well because priorities serve our purpose.

Often there are invisible barriers that blocks us from doing something that would be really beneficial for us: i.e. we cannot stand up at our office desk because we do not have the standing table, or believing something is impossible even though it might be everyday just around the corner.

We all are forgiven our ignorance, lack of courage and laziness.

To get more done and thus make more out of your time you need to see and look opportunities to get many tasks done with the same time, without losing your focus to the pitfall of multitasking.

As example, think of assignment to turn in to the school. What if the same assignment would be the requirement for several classes? You could focus all your effort to do the one assignment well and get the same excellent return on all your grades.

Well in the practical life it is like that as well. You just have to think about your priorities in life in order. Write down a list and then rank them by the order. Then divide the list into roughly three equal parts: there you have your CRITICAL, BIG and SMALL priorities. Organize your life first to complete the critical ones, then proceed with big ones and lastly small ones if you have any time and energy.

When you know exactly your priorities you can start actually looking at your habits. If there is health in your critical part as it should be, then you probably are looking to do something with your eating, moving and sleeping. These categories are the basics building blocks of our lives, we need to have smooth processes for eating, moving and sleeping.

Action points:

  1. Walk more the stairs. Stand up when you talk to the phone. Walk to your colleague, friend, instead of sending email or IM.
  2. Walk faster, you’ll develop identity of fast walker and you get more done as well as you’ll be a bit more active.
  3. In general walk more. Our bodies are made to move, every second you spend moving is better than being passive, thus contributing to your good health which will pay itself back with the interest.
  4. Eat fresher and more colorful food. In the long run this will save a lot of time and effort.
  5. Find a great place to eat and stick with that. I prefer places where I’ve a bit influence what I eat so I can construct my meal every time, yet I do the same way. I love eating salads, steamed vegetables. My meals are rather consistent so I do not have to waste time on what to eat.
  6. Set up your working times as total focus time, 45 minutes at the time.
  7. Drink less coffee, tea and other than water. It saves a lots of money and time.
  8. Talk more to people. Even better walk to talk to them. Seriously most of our cravings of sugar, coffee, etc. come just from social needs that have just develop to the rapid needs of sugar rush.
  9. Always take notes. Seriously if you have your priorities in your mind, you should always be ready to take down the thoughts related to them.
  10. Read anywhere, when you commute, wait in the line etc.
  11. Listen audiobooks anywhere.
  12. Replace TV, Social media and news with books. At least turn the time consumption around most of the time to the books and less time to the news and social media.
  13. Master your routines: the necessities must be dealt with masterful ways. Most importantly master the clock: if you know how long it does you to do the things, you’ll become the master of the moment, because each moment you know your capabilities and the realities.

Focus on Your Goal and What Are You Going to Do About It

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Our ability to direct focus determines so much what we can achieve.

This morning I woke up without alarm after five a.m. and at first I was about to succumb into the sand pit of news and everything. Then I realize that this is not exactly a good way to start the morning.

I’ve taken measures to limit reading the news and the time spent on social media, but the limit of ten minutes is always reset in the morning. When I realized this habit, I immediately closed of the pages and asked myself what I am doing? I clearly needed to remind myself of what today is about.

Dreams are nice, goals are better. After remembering what the goal is, know what are you gonna do for that goal today.

Leadership is reminding. Since we are our own leaders, we need to remind ourselves about what we are able to do. With this, I think I need to heavily modify my home office to aid me in this task of remembering. Writing goals down is effective, putting that goal to somewhere visible is even more effective.

Seeing the tiny, everyday progress towards the goal is beneficial, and psychologically important, so visualizing is great idea.

It’s easier to drop the distractions once you know your big goal and what you have to do for it today.