If You Could Decide What Would Your Life Look Like?


There are tremendous forces at work with life. They crush and crumble our plans easily. That’s why plans are useless. Planning is useful thought, because it allows us to mentally prepare for things to come and then adjust accordingly.

Visualization has the same effects on our brain as actual exercise. Same I believe to be true with planning. When we plan, we are living potential lives already. That prepares us for the actual reality to come.

With all this chaos and change in life, it might be easy to fall into the trap of victimhood: I do not have control.

While it’s true that the big picture of life gets set, we cannot affect the circumstances or the other people that are in our lives, we have surprisingly a lot of control within our own limited life.

Each day we make hundreds of decisions about our life. What if you started to look at your life the way you want to live it and make more decisions according to that ideal?

Decisions themselves are potent if you follow them up with sacrifice (decision to do means also decision not to do something else until the thing is done) and then action.

From Present Towards Utopia


We live life forward, from the present moment onwards. I remember browsing some strategy book at my friends place, where I took one idea: that we should live 70% in present, 20% in the future and 10% in the past.

By these portions of course that the includes preparing and planning, and then 10 of the past % reflection and learning. While giving absolute portions for life is difficult, as a guideline I like the idea.

Good questions to ask:

  • how does future look and feel like? I think it should be more like an utopia, that makes life worth living for.
  • is the past a prison or building ground for your future endeavors? We can learn a lot from our past, but as the 10% suggest we shouldn’t spend too much there. Just to take what we need and then get back to living.

With this, living in the present is easier. We can proceed from the present towards our goals and ambitions if we know exactly where we are. Sometimes even when we think we know where we are, we do not, because of some sort of error. Therefore remember to figure out first where you really are, then check if you really are there and then start to think which direction you would like to go.

Use the past experiences as a source of learning, however do not attach to them too much, because that information may not be valid any longer.

What’s Your Ideal Day, Week or Month?

burn.jpg(Source: Neil Pasricha – The Happiness Advantage)

Although during a work week for example, I might be a lot in the burn and think mode, there is still need for some space and just relaxing ‘doing without thinking’.

I guess when we start to look our lives in greater picture, i.e. week and month we should be more mindful to have of all these elements there to enjoy life and have production capability for tomorrow.

Reflecting upon the things that we get satisfaction from or enjoy will help to map out what activities and who people are the ones that you want to spend more time and on the other hand what activities or people to spend less time on.

The same answers do not really apply for day , week and a month level.

Benefits of Proactivity

Once you understand the potential of proactive mindset it will potentially transform your life from the root levels.

Example would be nutrition what you eat and when you eat. Proactive people prepare their meals that are according to their values beforehand so they do not have to worry about it when the hunger actually strikes.

Another example would be rest: proactive people prioritize the necessary amount of rest and also ensure that they are resting while moving as well.

Proactivity has vast applications all around, so think where you could be more proactive to have more positive imöact to your own and the lives of others.

Too Busy to Take Care of the Most Important Things



Does the topic sound familiar? Today a big click happened in my head:  I’ve been too busy to rest properly for each day. Why cannot I feel well rested every day, I asked myself?

I require quite a lot of sleep: doing the daily eight hours feels barely enough, yet that’s what I’ve been going with for most of the time. I’ve tried increasing that a bit in the evening with varying results.

It also turns out now with better rested perspective, that it is very difficult to imagine the cognitive capabilities of a well-rested person, versus let’s say tired. It’s quite easy to guess, however difficult to imagine for oneself.

Two weeks ago, I started noticing certain exhaustion in myself that just wouldn’t go away.  I had slept, however the quality of the sleep was poor, so therefore even the eight hours didn’t feel much at all. Even though I didn’t consider myself a person who can stress about sleep it started to become a topic of stress.

On the positive note this didn’t go on for very long as I started to think what I can do about it. I decided proactively to do some work with my calendar and start work one hour later on most of the days. Additionally I would go to bed 15 minutes earlier each day. I decided to use the extra hour in most of the mornings for important personal stuff like writing, if I would wake up earlier.

Now I’ve about one and half weeks experience, and I have say that being well rested is the advantage I’ve been looking for. Mind that is well rested is capable in complex problem solving and creativity. Much of the challenges we struggle daily, can be solved with one moments’ creative insight.

Work smarter, not harder” – is a thought that I’ve tried to identify with before. Yet, it is so humane to get derailed from that beautiful thought, like a bunch of lemmings going over the cliff, we humans too love such herd behavior and do not even notice it.

I quite hesitated to do even these minor changes: because there is no guarantee of the net positive effects, and most importantly how it looks to others.

Well since I chose to stop caring about “how it looks to others” and decided put my wellbeing as top priority that certainly helped me to get the courage to try.  Life is quite too short to be pleasing imaginary opinions of others, I do not know how did I came to forget this as well.

Learn from my mistakes and listen to yourself.

Goal Achieving as Momentum Builder


I start where I yesterday ended and attempt to answer the question, on how to transfer the great feeling of today for tomorrow as well?

There is a lot of uncertainty in life, therefore it’s impossible to predict and for sure expect great results each time. Important thing for the sake of meaning is to have great sense of the bigger goal and the track – where I am now? When you know the big goal, and you know where you are in terms of that, it gives you sense of protection and sense of success. You are literally moving the mountain stone by stone.

Now you know what is your big goal and what your goal for the day is, you can start to plan the day. What are you going to do each moment? With this kind of precise planning, you will be able to forecast predictably will you be on track.

In the best case you will plan some activities that you are sure to succeed right at the start of the day. This will create the momentum, which allows you to achieve excellent results through the day.

Plan positive experiences to your life


Life should be positive experience, and as a smart conscious people we should plan our lives that way. In how to develop courage, drove the chart about the circle of control where is three layers. Idea in there was that we should spend most of our time outside our comfort zone. To succeed in that consciously we need to plan for it and what’s a better way to plan than a little by little positive experiences, so that we actually want to go there?

“It is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future—sub specie aeternitatis.” – Victor Frankl

Without a hope the life becomes quickly dull and boring place, I know this from personal experience. In western individualistic societies we can feel isolated from people. Ideally this wouldn’t happen of course, but we are not living in an ideal world yet. Therefore I would like to point out that those who can, involve other people as well to your plans as much as you’ve giving capacity!

Positive experiences to look forward to are important for our mental health. As individual we identify strongly with our experiences and those will make us more resilient towards the challenges of life. As Victor Frank said “what you have experienced, no power on earth can take from you.”

Often time we hesitate to make the financial investments for travel or a bungee jump. In San Francisco State University study, people were asked afterwards rated experiences for making them happier as well as better use for their money than material purchases.

So investing to experiences is definitely worth it and when we include others there as well we are making the best and most loving choices we can!