Contemplation: Focusing Full Energy


Decision making is energy intensive and energy creating process.

I’ve a few times a year these phases where the existential crisis kicks in. I’ll keep performing habits without much emotion. Then in some actions there is still spark left, while my rest of the mind wanders in deeper questions.

It’s because of this deeply inquisitive mindset that my mind apparently starts to question a little bit of everything. Including my most beloved and hard earned habits as writing itself. In fact today I made the decision not to write.

Until then I found some energy on the decision what to do tomorrow. And when I found the energy to decide on what to do tomorrow, what inspiring thing I will do tomorrow, now I got my inspiration to write about that decision making energy.

Making decisions is really energy intensive, however by doing so it allows us to focus our energy that which truly matters. And we should spend our days doing what truly matters, because other stuff doesn’t matter at all.

So far the very best answer to the meaning of life is to live life so that whole life is an answer to the question. And to do that we should be making smarter decisions on what to do and do those decisions with higher intensity.

Your Emotional State is in Your Control


Human beings are emotional creatures, emotions are contagious. In the Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor there was the two minute rule: the dominant emotion after two minutes will prevail in a group.

Because nothing worthwhile can be achieved by our own, we take part in social groups. It’s in these groups that emotions are more contagious than ever. In life business the emotional states affect the much desired results of a business and this of course isn’t good for the business.

These things being said, we are human & emotional creatures. We cannot turn off our emotions, so we have to accept that what we are and work from there. It turns out, as I have many times written we cannot choose how we feel, however we can choose how do we respond to it. Our total emotional life is dictated by our responses to different feelings.

Annoyances in life will occur. How we react depends on our own values, self-awareness, imagination, free will and conscience. We can identify our values, we can improve our self-awareness, we can use our imagination to explore alternative options, we have free will to decide otherwise…

When we are with others, we can choose what we bring to the table. We can choose the attitude with which we partake in the common effort. Use your imagination a bit, and think that you have a task to get completed, then you ask two different colleagues for help:

A reluctantly accept the job.

B enthusiastically accepts: “I do this and…

Try it yourself. Instead of just doing your work you add “and…”, you take the work further without asking. If you do this consistently and thus challenge yourself and raise the bar you’ll get really good. The difficult becomes easy. Attitude matters.

We are all in service profession.

Why to bother with any of this? Love.

“Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.”
― M. Scott Peck

Natural Means to Prime the Mood

I’ve been trying to figure ousmileyt more and more everyday natural actions to improve my mood. By natural I mean mostly about foods and drink that are not classified as drugs. So, I am determined to live without alcohol or nictoine. I am limiting my caffeine intake as well: during regular day I don’t even consume any. On some occasions I might have a cup to get better focus at writing or in a social occasion. On everyday life I’ve routines that do not involve caffeine. Same goes for sugar: in my everyday life I avoid sugary things. On special occasions I can certainly have a slice of cake or an ice-cream, those are not just in my everyday habits.

However, I’ve experience with all the mentioned above: alcohol, nictoine and caffeine in the form of tea and coffee. I’ve had these as habits. First hand experience has proved it to me thought, that they are not habits worth having. Now I’ve been not smoking in eight years, or drinking caffeine either in eight years. Without tea I’ve been now a month. Sugar habit I’ve quit even earlier than that, although at some point I’ve allowed myself to have more than at other phases of my life.

The decisions for me have been easy, because they’ve been motivated by two powerful purposes: one is curiosity and other is health. Curiosity has sparked the questions that has driven me to push myself further: can I live without this and what would the life be without this? Also curioisity has motivated me to look a lot deeper into my habits, what could be done differently. Health has been important motivation as well, especially dental health in all above mentioned categories. Anyone who consumes up a lots of sugar knows its not really a good for teeth, nor is a lots of coffee or tea either: they stain teeth a lot, which then in turn hurt self-esteem as well.

Living without these substances is relatively easy, mostly I think because of these two powerful and personal motivators. However, there is a still quite a big challenge that comes without living this. How to elevate the mood without relying on these kinds of substances, such as a cup of tea or coffee?

Well, for me great feeling starts from inside: having the best possible life that I could ask for at the moment. However, I still very much leverage the additional things that help me feel great about the day. I guess posture, breathing and smile are the prime things. You can learn more about the research behind this in the TED talk by Amy Cuddy.

Human experience is so deeply connected to emotions. We can consciously prime our emotions to be more positive though. It’s even important to do, because we will then in turn reflect our emotions to the others, and we wouldn’t want others to feel bad because of us.

That’s why we need to be our own lives CEO, chief emotional officer. It’s term that I first heard when Eric Edmeades held Business Freedom workshop in Helsinki, so I am not the first one to come up with it. It’s great memory rule to describe that a leaders must be a positive emotional influence. We are all leaders after all.

Other things that I use to prime my own feeling are exercise, rest, great warm meals and drinks combined with socializing is the best.

If you’ve any more ideas about how naturally to prime the mind please drop me a message in the comment box below!

Best Alternative for Perfect Life

Hardest thing in life it is to live it right.

— Since living life perfectly right has turned out to be impossible, it is useful to acknowledge the truth of what happened and then to forgive. Forgive even for yourself. Often times we are the most cruel to ourselves, not even to our friends we would not say such things as we are tormenting ourselves with. Please, forgive.

My arch-nemesis is false speech. Its’ something I have to be very mindful about, because for some reason I’ve the natural ability to say almost anything quite convincingly even if it makes no sense for me to tell a lie. It has been causing of suffering for me in the past. Ever since I started to become more mindful about life I’ve been zealous about the path of truth. Even six years later the battle is ever day and sometimes I fail and then the self-whipping cruelty starts. Thankfully there is alternative: to forgive and direct the energy to coming out clean and avoiding such failures in the future.

When we do not have the right mindset: failure is feared and dreaded, time after the failure is hell. It doesn’t have to be this way. We should treat the failures and other emotional wounds. I am greatly touched by the emotional hygiene Ted talk by Guy Winch, who really puts the finger on the problem. We often leave our emotional wounds untouched, even though they would need as much attention as any wound.

Also to add a bit of John Wooden philosophy here, to get going again: Most important thing is to try your best.

Basis for all that, is the ability to face the truth. That’s why the topics of failure, truth and emotional health are linked-in in this topic. Face the truth and do you best, that’s enough for a great life.