We do not have anything more than the present. We do not have our past and certainly not our future.
Suffering is created by clinging either to the past or the future.
If we go to past or the future we are distancing ourselves from the present. This in turn creates a vicious cycle of suffering, because if we are going to past or the future, we will lose present again.
All that we have is now, the present. Present includes everything. Buddha understood this very well and he also understood about the thinking and action which leads to these results.
In addition to the present, our present mindfulness or our thinking is all that we have. In fact we are not our thinking, because we can observe our thinking. Yet only few of us consciously exercise this human superpower called ‘thinking critically what we are thinking.’
We shouldn’t let our thinking taint our present experience, because present is all that we have. We should come to accept what we have and be happy with that 🙂
From the game of Go, I’ve learned prioritizing method which I’ve then successfully applied in life. As in the game, in life the priority order works in the framework of a day very well.
- Critical things are those, urgent that should be done immediately. I consider these critical priorities as health, loving, meditation and curiosity. With critical things, there is no negotiation they are the necessities for good and meaningful life.
- Big things are then the things that give more meaning, there are things like work, experiences, writing and reading.
- Small things are the last, if there any energy remains, these have to do with secondary things such as aesthetics, enjoyment and entertainment.
What is critical for your life? What about big? And small?
Essentially with this, it’s easy to plan the day around. Critical things have to be done first, big things second and small things if time and energy remains.
Clarify what each of these categories mean to you and you’ve a guideline to plan your days better. Clarifying to which category each action goes ahead of time, saves time and energy when you do not need to negotiate with yourself anymore what is more important or what should be done first.
We have too little time, so the question is when we have time? We never do.
Life is an urgency to accomplish the impossible.
Time is the dimension where all the intentions happen. If we do not know when, it’s not going to happen. This was key take away from today’s coaching by Jari Sarasvuo and thank you for that.
Everyone knows this intuitively that things won’t happen without when.
First question that should pop in our minds after the promise is “when?”
“When” makes all the difference. Why don’t you do the thing you have promised? When are you going to do it?
What is it you really want to do, and why you haven’t achieved it yet?
What would be the next step to achieve it?
Why don’t you do it now?
We always have the time for the most important.
I love the Game of Go, because there you have only as many moves as your opponent. Evenly matched opponents have to push themselves beyond their abilities, to grow while playing in order to gain advantage. The prioritizing rule I learned from the game, that I apply to life goes like this: play the critical moves first, then the big ones and last the small ones.
What are your critical moves in life? Do those right away.
What are your big moves? Plan and execute those asap.
Leave the small moves for last.