Don’t Let the Limits Bother You

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Creativity blossoms out of limits.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” ― Henry Ford

Excuses are form of our own thoughts limiting our own actions. Let go of excuses.

Beliefs what is or is not possible is a form of limitation. Do not let beliefs hold you back, look to open up possibilities.

What we have achieved before, does not mean something is impossible. It has just merely been done before. Do not let past, history limit you.

What others think you can or cannot do, is not necessarily accurate judgement. Do not let others determine what you can or cannot do. You know yourself best and if you think you have a chance, try it out.

Do not let the limits bother you, even if there are limits, seek to build bridges in between. You will find more strength and are able to summon unexpected strength and creativity. Limits are the construction material for greatness.

Life is Less About the Individual and More About the Collective Achievement

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Anything great or worthwhile, is not an individual effort. Anything worthwhile isn’t certainly worthwhile to be doing alone. Anything important, is not worth doing alone.

I’ve lived a long time under the illusion of individualism. Although I thought I saw some of the connections, too little on much of it.

On 2015 when I began reading systematically more books, I paid attention more to the  acknowledgements parts of the books. What kept amazing me was that there were so many people who these authors thanked and for great reasons.

Same goes for movie credits, and that often just begins to reference to the original story which then again has come alive through ideas which come from relationships. Collective effort.

It’s therefore unskillful to think that individual does anything in this world.

Humans are hyper social beings, we are born and alive thanks to the collective effort and thus all of our achievements are in part thanks to those who came before us.

Let Go of Perfection, Strive of Excellence Instead

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It has been over ten years ago, when I started to learn to let go from the perfection. Quickly I found another worthy idea to pursue: excellence. My encounter during a cross borders project with a professor on 2013 reinforced my liking the concept of excellence. He asked “who here is striving for excellence” and without hesitation I raised my hand, because although I didn’t know how to explain the concept I felt it resonated very deeply within me.

At a definition level, I think we all must first let go of perfectionism, because it’s unlikely. Excellence is much more achievable and now I think I’ve discovered the words to explain why.

Google gives us definition “the quality of being outstanding or extremely good.” However, good in measure against what?

I stumbled upon this phrase which puts my thinking into words very well: “Excellence is not about being the best; it’s about doing your best.” – Anonymous

Measure is yourself. Are you striving for excellence, and are you doing your today’s best?

We Become What We Do, We Do What We Think

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If we become what we do and we do what we think, then if we ought to become something we ought to think more along the lines what we ought to become.

To put it more simply: if we want to acquire a quality, we should also improve the quality of our thoughts.

Better outcomes rarely come by coincidence, therefore studying others who have already achieved what you want to achieve is a good place to start. More specifically it could be useful not only study those who have achieved what we want, but also to study their ways of thinking, their thought processes to understand what exactly they are thinking with actions they are taking.

Deeper understanding opens up the ways of thinking, and therefore the ways of becoming.

Make Your Desired Goals Inevitable

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We cannot achieve everything we desire. Most of the desires in fact are rather harmful and unnecessary.

In this life we have little energy to achieve desires. Therefore running after many desires is rather devastating and unsatisfying, as in this way it is unlikely that we will be able to satisfy many desires at once.

Satisfying needs is more important than satisfying desires. Yet life completely without desire would be a rather dull existence. Instead of going moment by moment after a desire, how about select one long term desire, a dream to fulfill and focus your energy to that.

Once you know what you want, break it down into action. Make the action habit, do something for it everyday. Continue tweaking your lifestyle accordingly, so that all your habits and focusing will be bringing you closer to the achievement of your desire.

You will inevitably reach your desire if you get to live long enough. It is due to the fact that we do not when our mortality comes in question, so it is best not to focus too much on the end result either. Rather, because of the possibility we should make most of the days meaningful as possible by exactly working through small steps towards the grand goal which may or may not be one day achieved. At you have done each day everything that is in your power for the goal of desire.

One Big Goal and One Strategy to Achieve It

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Any goal can be achieved by stating the action which then can be repeated until the goal is achieved. Simple and effective.

“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” ― Confucius, Confucius: The Analects

Dashrath Manjhi had a goal: to make a road through the mountain, so people of his village could get a better access to doctors, schools and job opportunities. People thought he was mad. He carved four hours a day on top of his plowing work with hammer and chisel at it, and it took 22 years to carve through. He made it.

What is your one goal? What is your strategy (verb) that by which doing you will inevitably achieve it?

In example:

Goal: moving a mountain. Strategy: carrying away small stones.

Goal: building a road through mountain. Strategy: hammering away the mountain.

Goal: escape the rat race. Strategy: Building assets and alliances.

Third goal is my personal goal and for others it may have pitfalls due to the nature of language. First, escaping the rat race means that the passive income earned exceed the monthly expenses. Secondly, an asset is an investment that brings income. These are crucial definitions for the success of this strategy.

Now try it yourself write down your big goal and the strategy (verb) to achieve that.

You Are the Beginning of Your Story

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Start by acknowledging who and where you are. What you are feelings? Note you are not your feelings, or you are not your thoughts either.

What do you want to do? What are you telling yourself about that what you want to do? What kind of story are you telling to others about what you want to do.

That story which we tell; decides what we can do. You could rewrite that story if you wanted.

As an example I noticed seemingly harmless story to repeat to myself and to others where I would say that I’ve outsourced my memory to writing. The original intentions may’ve been a momentary comedy relief, however whenever stories are repeated they start to hold on to others meanings as well. With mindful introspection I started to think that this story has been particularly convenient excuse for whenever I’ve been too lazy to put the conscious effort to recall and explain.

The story that was maybe spontaneously created, started to seem so good to that I’ve got to the habit of using it. Unconsciously formed habits do not come without downsides: the motivation to use this particular story comes from desire to save energy. While that might be alright some of the time, there are also cases where I would be better serving my purpose actually bothering to recall and use mental effort have meaningful dialogue.

With a bit of space and time, we observe ourselves and become mindful of our stories. When we recognize the mental, emotional states we are in and where we would like to be with these stories we can write better ones. Better stories serve everyone and your story can become part of our story.

Clarifying the Life Priorities

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Habits and pressures are really hard to break, this I’ve come to admit today. Actually now that I started to reflect what I’ve read recently, Charles Duhigg put it so that habits are impossible to break, they can be transformed thought.

This morning is exceptional for me, because here in Finland we’ve this four day Easter break that lasts from Friday until Monday.  For me this kind of break is a piece of heaven: break from the everyday and time to clarify my life priorities.

I’ve noticed some priorities I’ve had are on paper at the top, but not in action. So this is perfect time to think how I can really get them to be where they need to be in the priority hierarchy. It’s about asking myself hundreds of times what matters, and also remembering why it matters.

Asking these questions and remembering why the priorities are on top will brighten the colors of life. This will happen for sure, especially if all the priorities are not working out like in my case. At least we can start figuring out the next question: how…

Getting all the pieces of priority during our lives is an art that takes patience, there are no instant wins. However the progress brings as much as joy as the achievement and figuring out the questions are the first big leaps forward.

What Kind of Story Prevents You From Being You?

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I’ve forgiven myself for most of my regrets that I’ve caused for myself up until this age of 29. Forgiving gives always chance to move forward.

Living life with no regrets is cliché, that is fine if it were possible. Yet sometimes we do make decisions that obviously are stupid retrospectively, yet we do them and judge ourselves.

In the past I’ve had quite a bunch of roadblock beliefs. I.e. I was just considering time around ten years ago, somewhere around the time I first heard about Trainers’ House Growth Academy. Yet I did not have the identity back then to follow it up, and other beliefs as well as actual laziness.

Yet in the end, as had cleared some of these identity hurdles I did decide to take the leap or should I say charge of faith and decide not to complain, instead focus to take the chances what I’ve. This led me to apply for the Trainers’ House Growth Academy seven years later and commute for about three hours in a day total.

The price to pay has been totally worth it and more. Not only I feel like I am square with my beliefs, I feel I’ve paid the price and it has made me so strong in the process. That does not happen just any day.

Pay close attention to what kind of stories you tell yourself about what you can or cannot do. Either way you say, you are right.

Do not settle for anything less than you feel you can do.

 

 

Success Starts with a Choice, Repeat the Choice Daily and You Become That Choice

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When you learn to take the first step, taking the second step is just a matter of choice. Continuing the thought from yesterday with attaining the results we want from the life.

Excuses are easy way out, but once we have learned to take the first step, only thing that prevents us from taking the second is our own choice. We already know how, so then it’s merely matter of taking the steps until we reach our goals.

In theory that is, in reality there are limitations such as time and space in addition to our own beliefs and views of the reality. Here comes the big difference, about a really sensitive topic: optimism and pessimism.

As I’ve read and studied Martin Seligman’s book about Learned Optimism, I’ve also come to understand that it’s not necessarily solution to turn everyone into optimist, although there are certainly benefits when dealing with depression.

I’ve experienced depression and my natural thinking style has been quite pessimistic, or realistic as I would have put it myself even ten years ago. In fact, after reading the book the realistic observations seem to be right according to the book, although the explanation style in life is a major downside, which indeed has been a more limiting and depressing factor.

As I’ve become more aware of this internal dialogue and more importantly the explanation styles I’ve become also more relieved that with such minor adjustments I can find reasons to live fuller life.

When it comes to pessimism and optimism, we are talking inevitably about our relationship to time and space as well. Optimists seem to think good things last forever, while pessimists that they are very specific and temporary.

In the long process of life, I find it that having the belief to influence things and make life better is a very empowering one. What I know for sure, is that we have the tiny space of control: our decisions. Nothing in the universe can take that ability to make our internal choices away from us, we have that power.

Leveraging that tiny choice, power of decision we can create higher quality lives for everyone.

Quality comes through quantity, the more we do the more quality we are likely to produce. The more we do, the more feedback we are able to receive and through that we can improve.

Therefore once we first learn the first step. Second step is to keep on the repetition until we have mastered that one step. If we keep taking once step at a time and that becomes our nature, we will master whatever we desire in life.

Learning optimism might help, however it isn’t a requirement. Only requirement is the decision and keeping on to that decision every day.