Limiting Beliefs: Are You Really?

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Mostly what prevents us from doing the great things, is our own beliefs. Because of beliefs we choose not to do the small things, which with enough repetition lead to the great things.

For example: “I cannot go out walking, because I am hungry.”

Are you really? When did you last eat? If it has been within today then you do not have a problem. If you haven’t eaten today you probably should figure out that first.

Since I am writing from the first world perspective, I try to remind that human beings can go about a month without proper food if it needs to be. So taking the walk today isn’t really going to make you die out of hunger.

Do the things in priority order: if you’ve been sitting  at office all day and you are considering  if you should eat first when you come home or go jogging, the choice is obvious: go jogging first. You can survive another 30 min or one hour without the food, but what are the chances to crash to a comfy position and never get out of the door?

I have to say the probabilities to stay at home during winter time here in Finland are quite high, although on every day I think possible it is possible to get out there. Much of what we seem unpleasant is not that much about it really, it’s how we interpret it.

Challenge your beliefs! Are you really what you think you are?

Thousand times more

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How would you feel after being 1000-times courageous, would you be more courageous?

How would you feel after you would show caring 1000-times would you be more caring?

What would you know if you would read a 1000 books?

What about after writing 1000 books?

I achieved my reading goal of 40 books for this year on Sunday and I began to ponder what would be meaningful endeavor next. Instead of setting just merely next year goal, which certainly will be part of my bigger thinking, I remembered from the concept of 1000 times more from coaching session with Vesa Honkanen  and I thought the 1000 times is a pretty awesome concept.

It might be interesting to visualize a bit what would doing 1000 times more mean and what could the results be. One of the most energizing thoughts I had would be 1000 times more positive – what would that mean and be?

This reminds me of 1000 awesome things by Neil Pasricha. That’s certainly 1000 more awesome than before. I didn’t know the name of broccoflower before I read his 1000th awesome thing, before that I called it “fractal thing.”

I just may start the 1000 positive things, it feels like my thing anyway.

 

How would you feel for taking an extra step for thousand days, how would you feel?

Preparation Makes the Show

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In life, if you focus to what is important then you’ve important and urgent things and what remains are important and not urgent things. The not important box is about preparing for something important.

Preparation makes the moments possible.

Do you feel prepared?

How do you prepare?

Masters never fail to prepare. It’s as much part of the show than is the show itself.

Life is Less About the Individual and More About the Collective Achievement

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Anything great or worthwhile, is not an individual effort. Anything worthwhile isn’t certainly worthwhile to be doing alone. Anything important, is not worth doing alone.

I’ve lived a long time under the illusion of individualism. Although I thought I saw some of the connections, too little on much of it.

On 2015 when I began reading systematically more books, I paid attention more to the  acknowledgements parts of the books. What kept amazing me was that there were so many people who these authors thanked and for great reasons.

Same goes for movie credits, and that often just begins to reference to the original story which then again has come alive through ideas which come from relationships. Collective effort.

It’s therefore unskillful to think that individual does anything in this world.

Humans are hyper social beings, we are born and alive thanks to the collective effort and thus all of our achievements are in part thanks to those who came before us.

Happy Way to Get What You Want In Life

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Think for a moment, what it is you want in life? Let’s say next three years. Set an audacious goal.

Isn’t it so that you probably have to face some kind of adversity in order to get that? If it was anything daring, out of your current level of competence, this is definitely case. Audacious goals are audacious and meaningful exactly because they are just beyond our current level of operating.  Does what you what bring happiness or just gratification to you? Make sure to pursue the kind of goal that brings something more lasting than the instant gratification.

Okay now we have an audacious goal in three years, what are you going to do now towards that? Crawling millimeter by millimeter towards the goal is the key to the success as I wrote in the Climb.

Also another trick towards being more productive and getting to your goal even more sure AND feeling happier now is being happy now. Well while of course that won’t happen just because I tell you so, here are some ideas to get a boost in your both present and long term happiness:

  • Giving
  • Sharing
  • Kindness
  • Gratitude
  • Going extra mile to smile

That which we focus upon grows. That’s why I am always looking opportunities to help, give and share. I’ve been writing gratitude’s to my journal, actually anything positive. My favorite addition to my routine this fall to start giving positive feedback, so now I try to use every opportunity to do that as well.

So now you have an audacious goal, that is probably connected to your bigger purpose. Give your daily tasks your everything, you are surely to develop very good at them. Crawl forward and remember to be happy first 🙂

Janne

Happiness, Wealth, Success and Love is in Our Minds

 

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Our minds create meaning. Consciously we can choose what kind of meaning we give to what happens in life.

With the same principle our happiness is in our minds.

Our wealth is created by our mind, creativity, imagination, habits and actions.

Our success is the result of our actions.

Love? Actual love is doing rather than a feeling. Feeling is a mess in brain chemistry, real love is actions. If you do good, you will find eventually that it resonates back to you from people.

We become what we put into our minds. This includes the environment we are in as well as where do we spent our focus: i.e. is it in watching entertainment, pursuit of knowledge, building relationships or doing good deeds.

Let Go of Perfection, Strive of Excellence Instead

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It has been over ten years ago, when I started to learn to let go from the perfection. Quickly I found another worthy idea to pursue: excellence. My encounter during a cross borders project with a professor on 2013 reinforced my liking the concept of excellence. He asked “who here is striving for excellence” and without hesitation I raised my hand, because although I didn’t know how to explain the concept I felt it resonated very deeply within me.

At a definition level, I think we all must first let go of perfectionism, because it’s unlikely. Excellence is much more achievable and now I think I’ve discovered the words to explain why.

Google gives us definition “the quality of being outstanding or extremely good.” However, good in measure against what?

I stumbled upon this phrase which puts my thinking into words very well: “Excellence is not about being the best; it’s about doing your best.” – Anonymous

Measure is yourself. Are you striving for excellence, and are you doing your today’s best?

Courage is the Key to Learning and Growth

 

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If we want to have something different than what we have now, we must be prepared to risk it. Without a risk position, nothing can be gained. All growth is based on taking a risk, accepting it and then working so that the risk will not ever come true.

Sometimes despite all the work, the position does not succeed. What does a wise person do? Learn.

It is through courageously taking risks, and then learning from each position that creates growth. Sometimes we fail, yet we always learn. Sometimes we succeed bigger than we ever imagined possible.

Risking to get no, is better than never trying. At least you know.

Where are you developing your courage?

What are you risking today?

 

Poem: The Change Makers

 

Ignorant we all are, I must admit.

Yet there are those who to this do not submit.

These people are the shapers,

The change makers.

 

Those who are courageous enough to seek truth.

And stand to face the oppressive Brood,

Who do not care where the truth stood,

Or what was for everyone’s good!

 

People like Mandela and Gandhi,

Have become such examples, how handy!

Equipped with truth, love, and courage,

Have built their wisdom and virtue while pulling the carriage.

 

Suffering of the wheel,

Is imaginable and real.

They made no squeal,

Because it was in their interest to heal.

 

With grace they endured,

To the inner work they spurred.

Through work they developed,

And a new kind of thinking enveloped.

 

Wrong they faced,

Pain not only grazed.

They got to taste the pain of living,

And transformed it in their minds into a giving.

 

Yet people were astray.

Not caring what they had to say.

Thus they were sent away.

Only to return; and light the way!

 

They learned to care first,

To quench another one’s thirst.

People do not care how much you know, until they know how much you care, said Teddy.

 

World is not so steady,

You better get ready,

Your ignorance is unstable,

To care you are able!

Your Happiness is Your Decision

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Any one of us can make the decision to be happy right now. We cannot choose our emotions what we are feelings, we can choose how do we respond to the emotions. And by choosing the right responses we will inevitably feel good too in the long run. This means, happiness is in our control to decide.

By making the right choices consistently happiness is inevitable. There are even shortcuts to happiness, for example gratitude, giving and positive thinking.

Human is highly social animal, so the best we can do is to be grateful of what we have and share our happiness with others.

There is enough for everybody in this world, if we think through the lens of creating. Human creativity has created the well being that exists. Human doing is also the suffering of our planet and fellow species.

It is our next actions and decisions that determine what will follow. Therefore we can be happy with what we have now, contemplate on our virtues: what are we willing to sacrifice for our future?

We get only that well being which we are able to create for the world.