Solution orientated communication

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Solution orientation is often heard, less practiced.

Masterful way to practice solutions orientation would mean ability to produce three possible solutions to any given situation and then give recommendation of choice of these three.

It sounds easier than it is, as situations in life come and go quick. Therefore it is a skill that falls into “lifetime to master” -category.

What I find interesting about solutions orientation is that the attitude of challenging status quo and courageously bringing something better into the present moment.

Therefore solutions orientated attitude is not only about communication, but also about creativity and ability to create social value for others.

How are you going to create more value through solutions oriented attitude in your encounters, today, next week and next month?

 

Finding What’s Really Important

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Past is past, we should accept that and move on.

Future has yet to come, we shouldn’t worry about it too much.

What we are left with is the present. Using the present moment in smart ways to do important things is the one key skill that we need in life. We need to have the capacity i.e. courage and social skills to have the difficult discussions for example.

Time flows. Experience is of the time is relative. We if we feel pleasure our focus is in that and the flow of time seems quicker. If we feel pain the experience of time slows down.

It’s our abilities to identify the critically important things, in smaller and smaller chunks and then do that which is most important and get that done that makes our time spent feel very meaningful.

In fact it doesn’t involve a lot of work, but a lot of prioritization skill. Also with prioritization it’s very easy to think that doing this or that. However, have you ever considered are these the actual tasks that need to be done? Skillful people learn to recognize and break down the tasks that actually need to be done, instead of just looking and retaining the status quo, they challenge it completely.

Often the tasks that are at hand can be broken down into further tasks that are actually important.

Imperfecting Life

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The longer I’ve lived, the more I’ve realized how important it is to strive for imperfection. What is even more curious, as I strive for imperfection this can be misinterpreted easily by people who do not know me so well.

Yes, I am very interested in personal growth and learning. That doesn’t make me perfectionist, in the pursuit of something more and better. It makes me rather imperfectionist, trying to be a little more accepting of myself and others every day. It is through acceptance of imperfections that we can truly begin to make the journey anywhere. It is through imperfections that anything gets done!

In life there is no such thing as final version.

For what we need to do, we already have everything we need to get started. The result will never be final, yet we can do our best by doing our part in this project of life, then pass on the baton, light the fire of others and move on.

Living the life of imperfection is extremely satisfying.

Have a great day!

Janne

Use Negative Swing to Create Positive Momentum

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Power of perspectives is so powerful, you can literally turn anything upside down and build upon the momentum. This applies in good and in bad. Usually people would rather have more of the good and less of the bad.

It’s completely within our power to decide how each event will serve us: is it a lesson or a burden. Masters find the lesson in everything and everyone. It’s sure to be there, if you look deep enough.

Then use those lessons to create habits.

Use those habits to create combinations of habits that shape your days.

Use those days to make your dreams reality.

Resistance is a Growth Opportunity

 

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Resistance might mean resistance to change. However, the more we feel resistance the more potential we have to grow. It does not have to be in a leap, although it could be.

It’s only through resistance and challenge that we can grow from. If there is no resistance present, then we are not in position to learn much either. Too much comfort stunts the growth.

Therefore when we notice resistance to do something, we know we have a lot of potential for growth in that area. Most of the growth in the area can come from simple acknowledgement and opening up to possibilities.

With resistance comes often denial: we start to decline opportunities. What if we would say yes instead, what’s the worst thing that can come from learning and trying something new? You are likely to learn something.

Resistance is a kind of invitation to explore and grow. Instead of locking up with resistance, be mindful and acknowledging: see it as an opportunity to grow now or in near future 🙂

Self-Discovery in Order to Benefit Others

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Yesterday I had an epiphany that only person who really has a chance to get to know myself is myself. To truly know oneself, is a long process which we usually do not spend enough time with.

Not enough time? We are actually also the source of our time, we can create more of it and as plenty as we wish.

Once we know ourselves, we are able to give more of ourselves to others as well.

We should begin by stopping and knowing ourselves, since it’s really our privilege to know ourselves. If the senses are a channel to get to know others and that channel is a bit limited – with ourselves we do not have that problem.

Discover yourself, start to create your own time and benefit others.

Pressure Reveals Ourselves and the Culture We Are Surrounded by.

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We can become that which we learn to be under pressure. By observing our thoughts, we can change our response, we can change our action and we can change our habits. We can change ourselves to take smarter action under pressure.

We can become smarter by taking smarter actions.

Top performers perform better under pressure, because they have more time to choose a better response. So can anyone become better at chosen action is the responses are better and you have more time to respond.

Pressure reveals how prepared we are, and how do we react to the pressure: do we have time to evaluate the best choices or do we mindlessly react like animals do?

More than ourselves, the way we react reflects the culture around us. For those who are in the culture, it is difficult to see. From outside its easier to observe that under pressure our behavior is often based or even copied from those who are close to us.

Pressure therefore not only reveals ourselves, it reveals the culture we are surrounded by.

Of course we do influence and get influenced by culture at the same time. What is in our own control is the respond to each situation and that’s it. Do you breathe for four seconds before reply or do you respond straight away? Do you have multiple choices or do you go with the first one that pop  into your heads.

Remember to Be True To Yourself

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Yesterday’s decision making process put some interesting energy on the move. It’s the kind of energy where I remembered who I am and decided to live true to that.

We need to remember to be true to ourselves, and then we will find the energy to do the things that matter.

To be to oneself requires decision making based on self-understanding. Self-understanding requires listening and accepting that which is evident.

We get to be only ourselves in this life. Although what makes life fun is that we get to play many roles during our lifetimes. Still some roles fit us better than others and here the listening part comes crucial.

Listen, understand and say no to what isn’t you. Stay true to you.

Love yourself as you are. We need to love ourselves first, because not necessary there will be no-one else to do so either. We need to learn to be by ourselves first.

When we are able to with ourselves, it’s much easier to be with others and be of value to other.

Therefore remember to be true to yourself.

Unleash the God Within

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The dilemma with ‘us’ is our egoes that get into the way.

With ego involvement we can be excellent, without ego involvement we can be godlike geniuses.

Judgement does not further our cause.

Our we have tiny fraction of universes uniqueness inside us, and to live that true would be the purpose of life. Now, I would like to give advice i.e. to actualize that requires skillful action without an attachment to the results or trappings of identity.

Or perhaps that you could practice this or that meditation.

However, life is not that simple: each of our life is a puzzle, a game of a different kind to unlock our godlike nature. Therefore what works for one, may not work for another.

Buddha was careful with the words. Words or thoughts can guide or misguide us.

I realized, that my mission on is not to tell what I know, or communicate what I have learned. My mission is to wake up people to think for themselves. With this autonomy people can start solving their own puzzles of life and unleash the god within for themselves.

Rediscovering the Balance

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I’ve felt a bit mentally off balance this week, which I guess is because of stretching more in social life than usually. This morning I began to ponder that another thing has been that I haven’t had as much mindful time as I would prefer to. Therefore I decided to dedicate some time in the morning for meditation.

My key realization is that although physical exercise is important and is often times prioritized, how many of us prioritize mental training? Both are equally important, and at best they are the same.

Personally I had forgotten this lesson and happily spent twenty minutes of my precious morning time to meditate and it was worth every second and more.

“You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” -Zen proverb

This Zen Proverb is so true! Often when we are the most hurried we forget the most important thing.

In life there is no excess: there is no hurry, or too much or too little. Our perception is merely off and that’s why we should find the inner balance again through sitting still with our minds and letting go of the thoughts.