Solution orientated communication

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Solution orientation is often heard, less practiced.

Masterful way to practice solutions orientation would mean ability to produce three possible solutions to any given situation and then give recommendation of choice of these three.

It sounds easier than it is, as situations in life come and go quick. Therefore it is a skill that falls into “lifetime to master” -category.

What I find interesting about solutions orientation is that the attitude of challenging status quo and courageously bringing something better into the present moment.

Therefore solutions orientated attitude is not only about communication, but also about creativity and ability to create social value for others.

How are you going to create more value through solutions oriented attitude in your encounters, today, next week and next month?

 

Finding What’s Really Important

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Past is past, we should accept that and move on.

Future has yet to come, we shouldn’t worry about it too much.

What we are left with is the present. Using the present moment in smart ways to do important things is the one key skill that we need in life. We need to have the capacity i.e. courage and social skills to have the difficult discussions for example.

Time flows. Experience is of the time is relative. We if we feel pleasure our focus is in that and the flow of time seems quicker. If we feel pain the experience of time slows down.

It’s our abilities to identify the critically important things, in smaller and smaller chunks and then do that which is most important and get that done that makes our time spent feel very meaningful.

In fact it doesn’t involve a lot of work, but a lot of prioritization skill. Also with prioritization it’s very easy to think that doing this or that. However, have you ever considered are these the actual tasks that need to be done? Skillful people learn to recognize and break down the tasks that actually need to be done, instead of just looking and retaining the status quo, they challenge it completely.

Often the tasks that are at hand can be broken down into further tasks that are actually important.

Imperfecting Life

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The longer I’ve lived, the more I’ve realized how important it is to strive for imperfection. What is even more curious, as I strive for imperfection this can be misinterpreted easily by people who do not know me so well.

Yes, I am very interested in personal growth and learning. That doesn’t make me perfectionist, in the pursuit of something more and better. It makes me rather imperfectionist, trying to be a little more accepting of myself and others every day. It is through acceptance of imperfections that we can truly begin to make the journey anywhere. It is through imperfections that anything gets done!

In life there is no such thing as final version.

For what we need to do, we already have everything we need to get started. The result will never be final, yet we can do our best by doing our part in this project of life, then pass on the baton, light the fire of others and move on.

Living the life of imperfection is extremely satisfying.

Have a great day!

Janne

Resistance is a Growth Opportunity

 

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Resistance might mean resistance to change. However, the more we feel resistance the more potential we have to grow. It does not have to be in a leap, although it could be.

It’s only through resistance and challenge that we can grow from. If there is no resistance present, then we are not in position to learn much either. Too much comfort stunts the growth.

Therefore when we notice resistance to do something, we know we have a lot of potential for growth in that area. Most of the growth in the area can come from simple acknowledgement and opening up to possibilities.

With resistance comes often denial: we start to decline opportunities. What if we would say yes instead, what’s the worst thing that can come from learning and trying something new? You are likely to learn something.

Resistance is a kind of invitation to explore and grow. Instead of locking up with resistance, be mindful and acknowledging: see it as an opportunity to grow now or in near future 🙂

Where Do You Start At?

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To get somewhere, we must get started.

Where do you start, if you do not have the feeling to started? Would you begin by doing and finding the feeling, or would you try to set the feeling first and then start doing?

If what you want to do is anything of importance, it deserves to be started and done as soon as possible. Since life is limited what you are doing should be important. If you focus only to what is important, you will have time for everything.

Now since you can start to focus on what is important, you should begin somewhere and think less of where to begin, just start!

Be Like a Storm!

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You are a force, like a storm.

For you get everything done in time,

Do not focus on what others whine,

Instead let the successes chime,

And all the good find!

 

To change the world, we just need to change one dark corner of it. And often that tiny dark corner is ourselves. It’s enough to change ourselves for the better. We do not need to worry or think about anyone else but ourselves.

How simple is that?

It’s simple, yet not easy. Who said it would be easy. It’s simple and doable, not easy.

What is in your control, what do you get to decide? Start with your attitude, how do you choose to react to what happens in your life? How do you respond to challenges?

Stop wishing for easy life, start getting smarter, stronger faster. It’s all in your power.

Start smiling for what you have!

Start focusing on what is right in the world, instead of finding the faults.

Start celebrating the small successes in bigger ways!

You have all the time what you need to do what is important, just cut the unimportant out of your life.

Be like a storm, make yourself known, make a name for yourself!

 

Thanks for reading, have a great day!

Janne

Do What Makes You Better

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Living things go upstream, while dead things flow with the stream.

What makes life fun is the learning and progress. Sometimes these take time and frustration takes over first. Learning happens often in breakthroughs and come with emotional cost.

I’ve felt this frustration lately and I haven’t been able to pinpoint it. I’ve reached saturation point in my interest to absorb new ideas and at the same time to refresh myself with the old ones. This is feeling and just my experience. Probably this is not even true: I probably could get interested about yet many things and I still learn a lot.

Yet at this point I’ve accepted the feeling that every now and then I do not have interest for such things. Instead of finding something new or getting excited about the old I’ve been meditating a lot lately and I’ve tried to pinpoint the thing that I need or should focus on at the moment. Yet I’ve not found the thing, however I’ve had some breakthrough thoughts.

Such as the title: Finding the stuff to do what makes my life better.

Yesterday I was pondering what would my life look like if I were the hero of my life.

What would you be if you could be the best you?

Identity is the greatest leverage and we should think therefore carefully who we are and what kind of things we want to further during our lives.

Growth. Something in physical terms would mean to increase in size or mass. In emotional terms it would probably means mature response versus immature response. In spiritual terms, I don’t know. In intellectual terms it would perhaps mean better performance in a quiz or test.

Around 2007 I found the idea of conscious growth from Steve Pavlina’s blog and around 2009 I think I’ve been practicing daily.

Growth is always in relation to who are and where we want to be. We cannot compare ourselves to anyone else and we shouldn’t. Bill Gates would have said that comparing yourself to anyone else is an insult to yourself.

To grow then, we would need an understanding of our present state, to understand that we are but in the beginning of our journey.

To grow, we need to accept that we are all beginners. Masters are the masters at this skill, humility.

Humility opens up the mind for learning. So the way to grow is to start a fresh.

Good luck!

Janne

Sleep, move, eat

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Tom Rath has written a wonderful book titled Eat, Move, Sleep, it’s one of the best books I’ve read on wellbeing and if you have not read it, that would be the one book to read.

Today I amused myself with the thought that prioritizing sleep is important because once I am well rested I can respond better to almost anything! Up until to a point.

Sleep therefore deserves to be first. The second is a bit more difficult, but I would assume that if I first take care that I’ve rested well enough and I’ve empty fridge I guess I would have to move. The same would’ve applied to the hunter-gatherer example: if there is nothing to eat we need to move before we can eat.

Especially when we live the life of growth, the growth happens when we rest.

First Priorities Should Come as First Action

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Your actions reflect your true priorities.

If you sleep a long time, nap a few times and then rush to work, then your most important priority comes from working for others in exchange of your time.

If you were working for yourself, you would do your own creative work first and then work for others.

Same goes with the money that comes to you and you spend. If you start spending to the fun things first, then your serious savings and investments will not grow. People with rich mindset pay themselves first, always.

What do you consider to be most important priorities? Do they really happen?

I realized that in my life they do not. Certainly on many mornings I do jog and exercise, even read and listen some books during my commute. Yet for writing I haven’t had the time.

And the haven’t had the time is just an excuse, I haven’t made the time. And why I haven’t made the time? I had an argument that “I cannot write in the morning because my mind doesn’t have any ideas to work on in the morning” – yet this is so weak argument. I’ve a lots of ideas, it’s merely about effort to dig those up or about preparation to make sure in the previous evening to sure have everything at hand for writing.

Try listening to yourself and write those arguments down. Often the things that keep us from doing things are rather silly.

First priorities should be done first.