For long time I used to think that listening is my strength.
Then I read a book and there was a note that perhaps listening too much is not so good idea. Not a good idea because there is a lots of all kinds of stories that we are playing over and over again and most of these stories we are playing unconsciously to others and to ourselves. Mostly we are unconscious about this, until either we or someone else makes us aware of this.
In everyday life our minds are too busy to become aware of ourselves, unless we set out to do deliberately through practices such as mindfulness, yoga or meditation.
The constant playback of the stories means we are being influenced and also influencing our environment in unexpected ways. To others listening, it means we are rather boring.
And to listen others too intently means also to allow those same stories to begin to play in our heads. That’s why it is better not to listen (too) seriously and too much.
 Sisäinen tuli by Jari Sarasvuo