Qualities can be developed and acquired. One way is roleplay, which is essentially a way to fail fast and therefore a fast way to learn.
“If you want a quality, act as if you already had it.” – William James
Example 1: Being rich
First question would be, what is a rich person?
Common misperception is merely that there is a lot of money, luxuries etc. While this is correct observation it’s the surface. What makes a rich is in fact the ability to sustain certain lifestyle for infinite amount of time.
Mindset that makes allows you to sustain desired lifestyle for infinite amount of time has some preconditions. First you must understand that you’ve to have sources of income that produce income for you regardless of you working all the time or not.
Spending does not make you rich, investing to assets that produce you more do.
Don’t be fooled by the luxurious lifestyles, pay attention what is happening underneath.
Accept what you have and work from there. You too probably have access to at least one supercomputer class asset: your mind, otherwise you probably wouldn’t be reading this. Literally human mind has been the greatest asset for the humankind for very long time and for you it’s very accessible.
“There are no limitations to the mind except those that we acknowledge.” ― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
Rich people do not work for the money, they invest in assets that produce money for them. Therefore being rich is more of a mindset than any amount of wealth. Anyone who is putting effort to create and nurture asset has the potential to become rich. So adopt the mindset and start practicing and learning fast right away.
Example 2: Being successful
By definition success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose, so one must first have internal aim or purpose which then can be achieved.
Misperception of success if often the attention of the big audience, i.e. when you get attention you are successful. However, if this is true then the success does not last very long time and this kind of success is rather unhealthy and addicting.
While the attention is the language of power and love, which we all in the end crave for, real success should be measured by the achievement of internal standards, the achievement of aims and purposes.
To achieve success by this definition again we need to change and learn something to produce different results. To achieve success in our aim or purpose we probably need to change what we are doing. If we do not, we have set the bar too low to begin with.
To succeed, again we need to learn. Learning is the acquisition of knowledge or skills through study, experience, or being taught.
Studying mind is necessary to challenge the status quo, what has been learned before and to test if it is indeed true. Often the big breakthroughs happen through a paradigm shift, a new understanding that can only happen with the mindset of a student.
However, a student would be fool, not to leverage the wisdom who have come before us. Over 108 billion people have lived before us, and some of them have accomplished feats that no-one has ever since managed or bothered to do. You can still access to some of these brilliant people through books.
In whatever effort you want to be successful in, study those who have already accomplished what you seek to do. Seek inspiration, guidance and mentorship. Measure your success against your own metrics, quit only when you are done.
There you go, a short introduction on what does it mean to achieve a certain quality in life. Discovering what it is you want, then living and breathing everything about it, seems to be the key. As long as you do not quit, you might succeed.
Like I said, failing is learning. If you try and fail that’s alright. If you do not try, then you are stuck.
“A dead thing can go with the stream, but only a living thing can go against it.” ― G.K. Chesterton, The Everlasting Man