In life there is growth and the opposing force entropy. With growth conditions must be right for the seeds to be planted, nurtured, and grown, until finally the plants might bear flowers or fruits. The fruits of growth are plentiful, always sprawling more to this world like infinite fractal… World of growth is a world of plenty.
Growth requires attention, effort and a lot of energy. In human relations to love, is to nurture and to make the growth possible. Dr. Scott M. Peck defines love as action.
“The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person’s growth.” – Dr. Scott M. Peck – The Road Less Travelled
He also defines that the antithesis of love is laziness.
We can choose either to care or not to care. To care, is to love and not to care is the entropy.
To have a meaning in life; I think the first option is more enticing. That what we see beautiful, valuable and right, we should want to see to grow. Attention is limited, but with it these things for example will prosper.
Therefore I think I first and foremost task is to discover our inner values and purpose. With these in mind we can begin to direct our attention and love more skillfully.
There are over seven billion people in the world. Going about our tasks alone does not make much sense. I know personally how difficult it can be to find, build and nurture the kind of relationships to aid in this journey.
I would think of the journey in with the band metaphor: first we should find a merry band to practice with, in a band we are creating more than just anyone we could do alone… Then depending on our relationship skills either we stick with that what feels good or at some point of our life try a single career. At this point we express how we have grown with the band and what we’ve learned.
All in all, the way I see life, is how well we can do in these relationships. Can we find friends, spouse or even “the band” and then have fulfilling relationships in all areas of life?
Scott M. Pecks definitions of love and laziness apply to human relationships above all. Love takes effort, and attention must be given if we wish to nurture the relationship and let it come to the full bloom.
Who knows how many fruit gardens are in one seed if nurtured properly?