Thoughts about violence, inspired by a punch to the face


My reality got upgraded through a shock last night: I got punched in the face and my phone stolen in a confused situation that lasted seconds. Just moments earlier I had walked my girlfriend to catch a night bus to her work and so it all happened just 200 meters from my home.

This makes me choose my thoughts carefully. However, in the end it was easy for me to reflect back on the wisdom of Buddha, Gandhi and Camus about nonviolence and especially the this following phrase:

“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” – Gandhi

Oh yes, I am fine!

Single encounter like this could happen almost anywhere in Helsinki. It would be interesting to see some more data and start ponder about the root causes in both society and human mind – i.e. why to resort to violence?

To use the context of the Robert L. Moore and Douglas Gillette in King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine, violence would be immature expression of energy.

As definition (Merriam-Webster ) violence is exertion of physical force so as to injure or abuse [1]. Physical force or threat is attempt to create power, which then again due to the violating nature is fleeting and temporary as everything else.

More mature forms of power are more lasting and sustainable, i.e. respect that is earned through work, loving and kind actions. More mature forms do not abuse the power either, they mend and love it in others in order to grow the power of all.

We all want to have power. So in that sense, violence is an attempt – kind of “band aid” to feel that power. Violence based power is always vanishing, because we are hurting people around us, it takes away our collective energy.

Love based power is very different, we give it away to few and when we need it we can have it from many. Love is an investment to the growth of people near us.

Violence is breaking the piggy-bank of love that other people have been filling.

How to stop violence?

Organized and loving civil society. We need to extend love and power to everyone. Meanwhile we can contemplate on the suffering, why people are formed around violence instead of love and learn the art of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the only way ahead.

“Eye for an eye makes world blind” – Gandhi



[1] Merriam-Webster 2016. Violence.
[*] Image from Pixabay, thank you!

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