Today I was planning to sleep in a bit. Of course I failed to take into account the facade repairs that are going around my house at the moment, and thus I get a nice wake up around seven o’clock as construction workers start their machines.
I felt tired, stressed and annoyed. My unreal expectations had met with reality. I considered my possibilities for a moment and I didn’t like them, so I lay down again and think for a while.
Now finally some helpful thoughts begin to stream into my mind. As first I remember yesterday’s coaching about setting goals from there where you are. I began to apply this thinking of accepting where I am now: so I probably cannot sleep anymore, however I can have a nap later.
Next the pressures of life and stress were dominant. I was feeling inadequate about about work and results.
To counter this thought I just consider a moment: Are we really just our results? Thinking this aloud made the thought sound silly, of course we are not. Although I think our emotional parts of the brain like simple stuff like that to feel secure. Another thing related to the results came in mind from yesterday’s coaching was results are never higher than effort and effort depends on your beliefs. With these thoughts it was easier to get going on with today’s effort and creation, which is the thing that matters.
There was still a final bit of key thought that occurred to me again and transformed my morning: forgiveness. Forgiveness has this amazing power to unleash our potential. Firstly I needed to forgive the construction workers who had woken me up. They were doing their work anyway, so who was I blame them? Even though thoughtfulness is a skill of virtuous people, it’s not gonna increase in the world by yelling, shouting or blaming.
By accepting the current situation, I was able to calm myself and focus to what’s possible.
Then instead of stressing out, I chose to understand that effort in right places is what matters to get the results, therefore I am safe now.
Finally I chose to forgive to the reasons that had raised the annoyance levels. Root cause was in unrealistic expectations.
After these steps I am feeling more like open, relaxed and inspired. I took earlier wake up as a chance to do a bit of drawing, then I watched a few videos from School of Life (I learned about that channel yesterday from a friend) and finally of course write this article. Truly productive morning!
So these themes have proven their value for me in life and that’s why I also want to share them with you. Remember forgiveness is a way forward. Mahatma Gandhi put it “the weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Let’s wish for strength to be strong.